Baby staying in room past 6 months

[Chickencrazy3356]

I wondered if anybody has had their babies stay in their room past 6 months and if you felt it made it harder when they went into their own room eventually?

i love having our baby in our room with us, he’s coming up to 6 months but I don’t feel ready to move him into his room yet. He’s got to have some major surgeries when he is 1 and I feel I’d like to keep him with us until after his surgeries. He had a difficult birth and a few problems with his breathing since then so having him next to me selfishly is reassuring for me and I can act immediately if anything is not right , if he was in another room I think I’d be constantly going in to check on him!

by the time touch wood his surgeries are finished and hopefully he’s fully recovered he will be about 2-2.5 years old. My husband is completely supportive of him staying in with us but ive been told and also read we will be making it harder for him to transition to his own room leaving it that long and making “a
rod for our own back” . He will still be so little after his operations i don’t want to add the stress of moving him into his own room, id be grateful for any advice or experience with having children not moving into their own rooms till they are older

thank you !

Following as my baby is six months and I’m keeping him in our room until at least a year. Would just feel too odd being far from him in the night ! I’m not worried about him never going into his own room…everyone does eventually !

We kept ours in our room until about 18 months while we were waiting until we moved to a bigger house and it was fine but I did get sick of creaping around trying not to wake her. I found as she gets older she is more susceptible to waking when I was coming to bed or getting up. In your situation I would definitely want to keep him close. Another option is to have a spare bed in his room where you can sleep during rough patches. I still like to sleep in my daughters room when she is ill and will probably continue at least until she is in a bed and can get us when needed.

Keep your baby with you! Go with your gut. It really won't make a difference in the long run and of course with the surgeries you want him close. Current advice is babies sleep in parent's room til 1 (told by my HV recently). Best of luck with all the surgeries x

Mine was with us until 10 months as we needed to get her room ready. She took to it just fine, we had established a good routine by then so kept everything the same, except the location, not sure if that helped and my memory is hazy but we didnt really have any problems and she has been fine ever since. Really helpful for me as I am hyper vigilant when she is in the room and struggle to sleep.

I booted mine out at 6 months but it sounds entirely sensible for you to keep him with you, especially with surgeries to come. The poor wee thing, I hope all goes as smoothly as it possibly can.

I have friends who kept theirs in their room and in their bed for literally years. Whatever works for your family.

Honestly ignore all the rod for your own back comments. You know your baby and what they need. Do what works for you and your family. You don't need to decide now how long they stay with you. Just keep them with you for as long as it feels right. You'll know when you're ready for them to move into their own room!

I'm lying in my super king bed with a baby to my right and toddler to my left. Am in absolutely no rush to ship them out! It's going so fast. You can keep them with you until they're old enough to ask for their own room if you want!

My kids went to their own rooms at 8 months, 12 months and over 18 months - like yours our littlest needed major surgery so we.kept him.with us for ease and his comfort. He moved rooms fine - the hardest to settle was the eldest who moved at 8 months!

Keep them in your room as long as you want! Mine was out at 11 weeks and slept so much better for it. Everyone is different

However co sleep with my 10 month old.

My 11 month old still bedshares with me. Has pretty much since birth. He seems too small to be all by himself in another room.

We just moved dd into her own room at 18months… much later than we originally planned due to renovations. Couldn’t have been easier! We introduced her to her new room in the afternoon, she was so happy and excited as she could understand that it was a room just for her. She’s started asking to go up to bed at night and she sleeps really well in there!

Keep him with you. He's only tiny for a short time. Children want to be close yo their parents when they sleep..

Ours slept in our room until around 13 months. Partly because it took us that long to get his room ready and partly because that was when I felt both him and I were ready. He settled really well when we did move him, although I slept in a bed in his room for the first few nights. He started sleeping through the night for the first time shortly afterwards- previously had been typically waking once and sometimes twice, but I don't really know if that was connected to having his home room, being tired out after starting nursery, something else or just coincidence

My 3 year old only went in with her sister in august as she was a dreadful sleeper and it was easier having one awake rather than two.
You do you, there's no right or wrong answer

Dd slept in a crib in our room for nighttime for about a year. Slept alone in her cot in her room for big lunchtime sleeps (2 hours) so it was an easy transition for night time to switch around.

DD stayed with us until she was 2 and a bit. She actually decided one night that she wanted to sleep in her room and that was it! Keep your baby close as long as it works for you.

Absolutely! Keep him in as long as you want. I just moved my baby to his own room last night for the first time, he’s 16 months. Didn’t want to but he was waking up a lot. Seeing how it goes, if he’s ever ill though I want him back in with us as I like to check on him a lot too.

theres no rule, do whatever you need to do. Also, around the world and historically babies have slept with mothers for much longer than 6 months.

My now 3 year old slept in the same room as me til she was around 8 months old
Just do whatever you feel is right

Not at all - American paediatric guidance is at least 12 months and in lots of countries they cosleep until much older. You do what’s right for you - all children eventually sleep in their own rooms regardless and interestingly there is some info about meeting their dependence needs when little allows them to be more comfortable being independent later…

DS was 13 months. He absolutely wasn’t ready by 6 months but was after a year. He gradually spent more and more time in his own cot (rather than co-sleeping) leading up to his first birthday and by the time we moved him he was ready.

My 3 year old is still in with me and I have no plans to move her yet! I know she will sleep on her own eventually as her sister does and I will do anything to get as much sleep as I can!

Mine is 2 years and we're still going, works for us. Do what works for YOU and them x

Many cultures cosleep through the toddler years. As nightwaking is still fairly common it can be easier.

DC14 is just coming up t get 1st birthday and is in with us - she just about sleeps in her side-car cot but often with her feet in our bed. She rarely wakes more than twice so it's fine for us. DC 1-3 all slept in cot on side of our bed till somewhere between 18 months and 2, then went to beds in their room but with a single bed for me or DH in case of illness/nightmare/3am wee until they were about 3 as it was easiest for us. No issues transitioning any of them.

Do whatever you are happiest with. I'm highly sceptical of the whole "rod for your own back" concept. Never sleep trained any of them and merrily fed them to sleep as long as it was mutually convenient. If you're happy and baby is happy then it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

DC1 was with us until 16 months.
DC2 until 18 months.

Both transitioned to their own bedrooms overnight at that point without any issue or fuss whatsoever.

They did both nap in their own bedroom most days from being around 12 months though which I'm sure helped.