Baby staying in room past 6 months

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I wondered if anybody has had their babies stay in their room past 6 months and if you felt it made it harder when they went into their own room eventually?

i love having our baby in our room with us, he’s coming up to 6 months but I don’t feel ready to move him into his room yet. He’s got to have some major surgeries when he is 1 and I feel I’d like to keep him with us until after his surgeries. He had a difficult birth and a few problems with his breathing since then so having him next to me selfishly is reassuring for me and I can act immediately if anything is not right , if he was in another room I think I’d be constantly going in to check on him!

by the time touch wood his surgeries are finished and hopefully he’s fully recovered he will be about 2-2.5 years old. My husband is completely supportive of him staying in with us but ive been told and also read we will be making it harder for him to transition to his own room leaving it that long and making “a
rod for our own back” . He will still be so little after his operations i don’t want to add the stress of moving him into his own room, id be grateful for any advice or experience with having children not moving into their own rooms till they are older

thank you !

My toddler was 16 months when he moved to his own room. No issues at all with the transition.

When mine were born in Dublin I'm sure the advice was to keep them in with you until they were one. Second dd was over two when she moved out! They're 21 and 25 now and I wish I could get them out of my house now but with house prices here being mad I think they'll be here forever!

The guidelines say keep them with you for minimum 6 months. It doesn't mean you have to move them at that point. Do what works for you and don't worry about it.

I moved my baby at around 5 months however she's been back and forth according to different phases. She turned 4 recently and is asleep next to me! 🩷

Mine stayed in with us until he was 3, apart from occasional afternoon naps. Then he got a new digger duvet set for his room and never looked back, apart from the odd night when he was poorly.

My nearly 2 year old is still in the room with me in his cot. Main reason is because we need to move to a bigger house, he can't share with his older sibling as they are a really bad sleeper.

DS stayed in our room until about 19 months.
Loved it. Wouldn't change it for anything.

Moved to his own room night one perfectly. No issues at all! Hes now 2.5 and had no issues since.

Do it! If everyone sleeps well, what's the rush? They are only little for such a short time. Enjoy it.

Go with your gut and not what you read online. If you want to keep baby close then keep them close. Humans have kept their babies close to them for donkeys years, it's quite new to separate a baby from mother.

I tried with my first to separate at 2 years old but it just ended up with him having nightmares and now I co-sleep with my 3yo and 1.5yo. We all get a better sleep this way and it also makes me feel cosy.

You could always get a co-sleeper if you wanted more space?

Mine was 13 months but I kept a cot in my room too so that I could bring him back to my room with me if he woke crying in the night

My eldest stayed in with us until he was about 18 months, he transitioned to his own room without difficulty.

My ds2 is 7 months and we will probably do the same, he is still in a moses basket at the mo but we will put the cot up soon

DS was in our room until nearly 2.5 years old.

We had a bedroom for him but he wasn't a great sleeper so it was easier to settle him in our room than getting up and going to another room.

He moved to his own room when he started sleeping more regularly through the night.

It was fine. No issues when he got his own room, in fact possibly less as he was more able to understand having his own room and we'd had time for him to get used to it during the day/evening/nap time with his toys in it so it was a happy space for him.

So that's the only thing I'd suggest when you eventually move him, to make sure the new room is used regularly (especially for nap and play time) before becoming an overnight bedroom so your little one associates it with being safe and happy.

Sorry just to add to my pp we used a different bedroom (thankfully had the space) for all our clothes (and for - ahem - adult shenanigans) so our bedroom was just to sleep in.

So no creeping around. But I appreciate we were fortunate in terms of the space we had.

Keep him with you as long as you need to. Do what feels right for you. My DD is 20 months and still sleeps in with us, in her cot next to my side of the bed. She sleeps like a log for 12 hours. I love waking up in the morning to her happy little face peaking at me, we plan to move her in to her own room in the new year, when she will be 2. I am already dreading it, I will miss her little face when I wake up, I want to cherish every precious moment with her. She's my 4th and final baby and DHs 1st. I have 3 DD from my previous marriage, who are already adults. DH feels the same and is in no rush to move her.
We do the adult stuff before we go to bed, usually on the sofa, it works for us

We had DD1 in our room until she was 4 and DD2 is still in our room at age 2.5 (there was an overlap when both of them were in our room for about 9 months). DD1 was only in with us for so long as it took longer than planned to move to a new house, but she went into her own room immediately when we moved and she had no problem settling in a room by herself.

At the moment I still breastfeed DD2 to sleep and she is happiest being with us. I don't feel any rush to move her into a different room at all. I find it reassuring when I hear her move or make noises in her sleep, and she sometimes talks in her sleep which is pretty cute. Both dcs tend to go to bed fairly late so we don't have to creep around them much.

Mine DD is 8 months. I live in a flat and we will have to share a room until she is at least 6 years old. My biggest life goal at the moment is to save enough for a deposit so she can have her own bedroom for her 8th birthday. She is still in bed with me even though she has a cot. I went with my gut and am so glad I did as twice in the last fortnight she has vomited in her sleep (face down). I count my blessings that I was right there beside her both times.

It's a natural thing to sleep close to your baby. I have a cot which converts into a toddler bed. It's her space and always an option but at the moment we both sleep better together so for now the cot is functioning as a wardrobe and that's ok. Don't feel pressured to rush the process. A lot of cultures co-sleep for many years.

We moved ds at 10 months, he stayed 2 nights of absolute hell, then we moved him back in with us & he stayed until he outgrew his cot at about 2.5. Then we moved him into his own bed & he stayed no trouble.

Yep. 6 years on and still here. I love it.

Both of mine slept with us until probably around 3. The transition to their own rooms was really easy. I think it definitely made a big difference and it’s why we got so much sleep and were able to cope so much better than friends who were constantly sleep training and trying to enforce strict routines. When they were ready, they were ready and it was no big deal.

My rapidly approaching 3 year old still sleeps in our bed - she's never even had the option of her own bed. Do what's right for your family.