Toddler swore.. mortified and worried!!

[Nicola1989s]

So this may sound silly but my anxiety has gone nuts! So my 3 year old attends nursery and today when dad picked her up, her nursery worker wanted a chat with him. My daughter was playing with a child and told that child that she was “pissing her off.” When the worker told her it was naughty she replied “but she’s pissing me off!” I’m absolutely mortified and have since sent the nursery an email to apologise and also had a work with her older brothers 15 and 17 to tell them to watch what they say around her. Will us as parents get in trouble for her using that today? She obviously doesn’t understand what she has said but now worrying about social services getting involved (this is my anxiety)! Sorry for long post, just looking for reassurance!

Reminds me when my son was about 3, we were in a restaurant having lunch. He dropped his knife and fork, was so upset he was going into tantrum mode more or less immediately. Couldn’t pronounce fork, shouted over and over as loud as he could, ‘I want a fuck mummy, fuck mummy, I want a fuck’.

You should have seen the faces of the other diners 😳😂

Someone I know works in a nursery.
Some of the stories are hilarious.
Trust me .... this happens all the time!

😂 so funny.

Honestly it happens. I wouldn't worry too much. If you know the source of it and can curb it around little ears then that's the best you can do from here on out.

When a friends child was in the last year of preschool (so about 3 or 4) at the door at pickup she proudly announced 'Daddy I didn't say shit, fuck or (I can't remember the last word, but something sweary!) all day!' ...she was still holding the staff members hand at the time.

Her parents were mortified, but we all laugh about it now!

There's a photo of me at the age of 3 looking very grumpy and holding a large stick in my hand. I can actually remember bashing the stick on the ground and snapping it. I said "Bugger - my stick broke".
My mother was furious with me and told me off for swearing, but l bet anyone watching would have had a little giggle.

That's great!!

When my kid was small he had a problem with his 'st' noise, would substitute for 'd', so stick became dick. Was usually amusing one day he came running into a busy pub garden shouting 'Daddy hit my dick with his dick and his was bigger than mine!' ... Could have caused us a lot of trouble 😬He was still brandishing the stick though, so I think most people got it!

The best tip I got from my mum was to teach toddlers that a completely banal word that you don't say often (e.g 'churros' or 'pinecone') is a swear word, and reprimand them jokingly if they ever say it.

It really works if your toddler is the type to wear because they're trying to get a reaction from you

I wouldn't worry. My 2 year old has said a few naughty words. Shouldn't find it funny, but I do, but do tell him off!

Someone pulled into a spot in front of me in a car park, and dd (nearly 2) spent 2 weeks saying "oh bollocks" and then just forgot it again.

These comments have made my night and certainly made me laugh 😂 thank you all!!

If it makes you feel any better, at nursery pick up last week the dad in front of me was told his kid was sitting round the dinner table going ‘fucks sake! Fucks sake!’ repeatedly……… luckily DD seems not to have picked up on it!

I would add to this that if they are swearing for the reaction (not because it's a preschooler picking up words as you describe in the op). So for an actual rude word you correct them by saying a different word. So for shit say "do t say sugar" or fuck "don't say fudge" etc it's really effective .

Clearly this child had heard someone make this observation!
https://www.facebook.com/mags.grech/videos/3806853392881838

I stubbed mh toe one day and said 'Oh, sugar.'
Very restrained of me.
Ds, 4, told me off for saying a naughty word.
I replied that sugar was not a naughty word.
His very astute reply was that ' it was the way you said it.'
Couldn't argue with that.

Oh grow up.

My daughter - 2 weeks before her 3rd birthday, said "fuck sake" - when we went over a speed bump.

She's maybe said it once since. Do not react, let it go. And visit a doctor for your anxiety, that's not normal.

@noodlercanoodler you okay there? Coz if we're going to tell people off on the internet for reacting then starting with 'oh grow up' could be labelled hypocritical...

:-)

This is the thread that keeps on giving. :-)

@Boobygravy I had a school friend who was banned from using any words in a sweary way. No substituting fudge or sugar in that household. Super strict!!

I love the MN staple of see the Dr for your anxiety lol like the GP is going to prescribe something for no reason 🤣🤣

DC, 2.5, happily sung out ‘BLOODY white van!’ each time she saw one for weeks after a certain car journey with her grandmother.