Toddler swore.. mortified and worried!!

[Nicola1989s]

So this may sound silly but my anxiety has gone nuts! So my 3 year old attends nursery and today when dad picked her up, her nursery worker wanted a chat with him. My daughter was playing with a child and told that child that she was “pissing her off.” When the worker told her it was naughty she replied “but she’s pissing me off!” I’m absolutely mortified and have since sent the nursery an email to apologise and also had a work with her older brothers 15 and 17 to tell them to watch what they say around her. Will us as parents get in trouble for her using that today? She obviously doesn’t understand what she has said but now worrying about social services getting involved (this is my anxiety)! Sorry for long post, just looking for reassurance!

Not a big deal, dear, honestly. 'Pissing me off', is used by everyone nowadays. Many years ago when I was not long married the lady next door said her little girl had picked up, "Oh shit", from me. She wasn't upset about it, thought it was funny.

Saying someone pisses you off is no different to saying they get on your nerves. The nursery worker needs to get a life.

My mum had to do home visits before the children started in her Reception class. She went to see one family, and met the little boy and when he was told to go and play he kept running back in pulling silly faces. Dad told him to go and play with something, and the kid draws himself up upright and declares 'OHHHHH SHIIIIIIIT'. Mum managed to hold it together and was in hysterics all the way home. Still talks about it now - kid must be in his 20s now. 😂

Afraid this is part and parcel of an age gap family OP (although this kid was the oldest). She will know about Santa by age 5 probably and heck knows what else 😂

Oh you are massively overreaction.

They all do it and I'm sure the nursery staff were laughing to themselves about it.

One of kids would say 'oh shit' everytime she dropped something. Don't react to it too much.

:-). Thst is brilliant, Whatdiditdotome. I can't stop laughing (I am a silly person).
:-) :-) :-)

Gordon Bennett, I won't get over that for a while.

Btw, my mum thought me saying, "Gordon Bennett", was common.

When my eldest was about two she muttered "for fucks sake" under her breath when I asked her to do something. Clearly my muttering of it at times was not quiet enough!

Don’t worry OP. We were driving and DH had to make an emergency stop. DD blurted out for fuck sake daddy. She was 3 ish at the time. It happens.

The first time my ds ever saw snow, he was about 2 maybe, he looked out of the window and said clear as day 'oh shit!'. What a magical moment

wait until she says fuck and uses it in the right context

Your post rmeinded me about this one.

I love this thread, it has really cheered me up! Kids are so funny.

I remember my little one, twoish, in a car park where I was struggling with a shopping trolley, saying, "The wheel's buggered up, Mummy".

When I was a child I taught my budgie to say, "Sod and bugger". I was not an innocent little child though, maybe ten, I knew what I was doing and what effect it would have. It was hilarious.

This - they weren’t telling you to shame you but to make you aware so that you could reinforce the message at home that they’re naughty words.

Be prepared for her to tell her big brothers they are very very naughty if they slip up, though. That will be hillarious and worth every second of discomfort you’ve felt over this. Karma and all that…

Social services? Honestly, you can’t be this naive. There are children treated horribly by their parents that are overlooked by social services. Why would they be interested in mild swearing? Can you imagine the caseload? I doubt the nursery are that bothered and will have heard worse.

If at any point social services have enough spare time to pursue a child 'swearing' (once, and in context), then it'll be a great time to be a kid.

They're far too busy with children who don't get fed and washed or babies born to active drug addicts. You'll be fine.

My friend's relationship had ended and she'd had to move back in with her parents. Her son was 3 at the time.
When she was growing up her father was very strict so moving home wasn't an easy decision .
They'd been there about a week when her son drove his sit and ride car into the sideboard. Her son said very clearly " oh bollocks". Before she could say anything, her dad stood up and said " grandson, what did you just say" in quite a loud booming voice. Her son replied " I said bollocks grandad" . My friend was very worried about what her dad would say but needn't have worried as she saw his mouth twitch and his eyes twinkle and he replied " yes that's what I thought you'd said" .
A little while later my friend then had a conversation with her son about nice and not so nice words to use.

Oh mate.

I'm afraid you can only keep their vocabulary clean for so long. The moment they're in school or another environment where there are large groups of kids and adults, they tend to pick up naughty language very quickly.

All the would have happened is the staff will have had a chuckle about it and it will be forgotten almost immediately. It's only an issue if she said something obscene, worrying or keeps saying things despite being told not to. You emailing to apologize was a nice touch, many wouldn't even have done that. Put it out your head after having a word with her to make sure she knows it's not nice and not to happen again.

One of mine used to say "bollocks, that's all bollocks" when the credits came on at the end of a programme/film. He'd point and shake his head. I had to make sure to switch things off quickly when my parents were visiting! (He did stop after a couple of weeks).

I'm so sorry but I laughed, not at you and your anxiety but at what your toddler said! I've never met your DC obviously and I don't even know their accent but I could totally imagine this conversation and found it hilarious!
Please relax and laugh, no social services or anyone else in any sort of official capacity will be knocking on your door, they didn't when my DC said 'oh shit' when they spilt something in their first week of school anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️
The nursery will surely know about the teenage siblings and probably agreed whilst laughing it could've been much worse! I'd be shocked if they judged you in any way. Tell your anxiety it's pissing you offer and thank your toddler for making me laugh and providing you with a funny story to share with them when they are older xx

You should be proud your kid can hear a phrase a few times, understand it and use it correctly in context. I work in nursery and we hear these things all the time, we have to pretend to be shocked and horrified but it's hilarious.

Many years ago a child in my school around 6, was talking to the head mistress about something, the woman had a habit of asking a question at the end of a sentence. She had made a mistake like said the wrong name or something and said. 'Well aren't I a silly sausage. What am I?' to which the child replied 'you're a stupid cunt Miss'. Still makes me laugh to think of it.

My child screamed ' fuck you' endlessly on a plane age 3 during a meltdown.

You're really over anxious. I blame alot of this on the perpetual parent shaming that goes on, and always has, I imagine. It's just now everywhere you go thanks to the internet and SM. You're so worried what people will think of you that you've lost all sense and reason.

I've been there. Don't let your fear of opinion and judgement dominate you and all you do as a mum. In the grand scheme it's nothing. It's miles away from being SS worthy.

Have you not seen the viral video of the baby saying ' it's a fu**ing goat' ? So funny!

Haha I was just going to say this. Hilarious video

It is very funny. My 5yo swears occasionally. I struggle not to laugh sometimes and have to maintain my composure so I can calmly tell him it's not ok to say that word. Kids don't understand swearing so they say certain words in the funniest of contexts. It's not a big deal. Unless they're walking around calling people the c word or every other word is a swear word, it really doesn't matter - par for the course.

OP I work in early years. We have to raise it with parents but be assured inside we giggle. It's more common that people think. It's more school age when they should know better we start to judge the parents a bit but often they are getting it from siblings or other kids and parents can't do much to shield them.

I know someone who won't swear at all and is very prim on language always asking others not to swear. When asked why she's so ott it's because her child's first word was "oh shit" when he dropped a toy.

Another time I hear a mum saying how her toddler will be singing "king car" on car journeys and she knows it's because she's always saying 'fucking car' at other drivers so is working on that.

You honestly have nothing to worry about

tbh, If I had had that kind of assertiveness at that age my life would have gone a lot better. Well done your DD.