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Original poster

can we have a thread for those of us who are perfectly happy with how many children we have, and have no desire to have anymore

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kerryk · 16/04/2008 15:31

this board is always full of people wondering if they should have another, or wondering how to talk there dh/dp into having another, what about those of us who are happy sticking where we are.

yes it does make me sad that i no longer have a pram to push and no matter how hard i try i can longer force dress dd2 into a babygro

BUT

my house seems 2 times bigger since we got rid of all the baby stuff, i now have a life of my own again, everyday things such as going shopping are easier, we can go for a meal without worrying about upsetting other diners, i will never have to potty train and the biggest plus of all i never have to step inside a mother and toddlers group again

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Poppychick · 16/04/2008 15:32

We're not going ot have anymore. I feel a sense of relief to know that I can now look forward to a time of more sleep, less mess, more money, more independence. Sure I miss the baby stage but only when I think of it through rose tinted glasses!!!! Two is enough for us.

PuppyDogTails · 16/04/2008 15:34

We're not having any more, DS will be a much loved only child (with two equally loved half-siblings).

I do wonder sometimes where my little bundle went.

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kerryk · 16/04/2008 15:37

when i do feel a bit broody i usually realise that its more i wish i could go back in time and do it all over with my 2 dd's again rather than have another one to bump it upto 3.

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Twinkie1 · 16/04/2008 15:39

I have 2 - thought about having another one just before Xmas and then DS got tonsilitus and I was up all night with him - that is when it dawned on me at the ripe old age of 33 I never want to have to go through nightfeeds and saggy boobs again - we are a happy family of 4 - me DH, DD and DS!

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kerryk · 16/04/2008 15:44

unfortunatly i still have to do the sleepless nights with dd2 and she was 4 last month

perhaps thats what has put me of anymore before that dd1 was a bad sleeper so really i have not had a nights sleep in 6.5 years.

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alfiesbabe · 16/04/2008 16:54

KerryK - i think your post about sometimes wishing you could go back in time and do it all over again is so true. I think we all get these feelings now and again, as each phase passes and we move onto a new one. You are very wise to describe it like that. There's a huge difference between a yearning regret for years gone by, and genuinely wanting another person in your family. I know some families which go on and on reproducing children and it's not always a positive thing - it's about trying to hang on to the baby and toddler phase rather than accepting that life is a series of different phases and that each one should be embraced as it arrives. I'm not knocking all big families - many people make a positive choice to have a lot of kids, and good luck to them. But I think it takes a lot of honesty from both parents to decide when the family is complete, and to move on and enjoy the children growing up rather than trying to turn the clock back.

booge · 16/04/2008 16:56

2 is perfect for us, definately no more little booges.

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kerryk · 16/04/2008 17:02

alfiesbabe you have made my day never before have i been called wise

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larahusky · 18/04/2008 22:41

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Flibbertyjibbet · 18/04/2008 22:47

I knew the moment ds2 was put in my arms that I'd got my two boys and needed no more.

All the baby stuff is ready for the nct sale next month apart from one small buggy we keep in the car. I CAN'T WAIT.

I even held a friends new baby today for an hour or so but had not one broody feeling, not for one second.

But would I go back in time to when I had a new baby and 16m old? Gazing lovingly at cute baby photos or smelling their first babygros which I've kept, I might be tempted to say yes, but then I remember the hard work of that first year, no no no no no.

gigglewitch · 18/04/2008 22:54

count me in. no more thankyou!!
never thought i'd feel like this, but now i do!
two boys, little girl, sorted. Complete.

maidamess · 18/04/2008 22:55

What about a thread for people who feel they may have bitten off more than they can chew, and could they please pop one child back in?

gigglewitch · 18/04/2008 23:02

getting them out was plenty for me thankyou, would rather not get them put back

3andnomore · 18/04/2008 23:09

lol...we so do NOT want anymore....I love snuggling Baby's and think they are supergorgeous...but well...I ratehr not it's my own now....I think it's great that I can hand a screaming Baby over to the mum...thank you very much!

What I will miss is the feeling of a Baby growing inside me, the movement and all that and also the breastfeeding....but that is it....

I love ys growing more and more independent by the day and ys and ms playing more together...yes, they still fight and all that, but the periods of true togetherness play in peace is becoming longer and longer all the time...I love not having to change nappies, I love that I have less and less crying to content with, and well, another Baby just wouldn't go...tbh, I have little patience as it is, having another would kill me, and I probably would go inside for murder, lol....

3 is plenty...and to all those people that keep asking me if I don't want to try for a girl next time.....I don't give a fucking toss about having a girl...all I ever truely wanted was healthy Kids....and I got those....if I have had a girl at one point, of course I would have been pleased, but I love my boys and they wouldn't be the same person if they were a different sex....and anyway, I could have 20 Kids and they still would be all boys anyhow...but I truely do NOT want 20 Kids....

cluelessnchaos · 18/04/2008 23:16

signing in ,echo your sentimnents, 3andnomore, RL friends have asked if I am you from your name, but I have 2 dds and 1 ds, like you I love that we are all moving on together to a new chapter in our lives, where we can be more adventurous and independent, I had the kiddos young so this time is for me as well.

3andnomore · 18/04/2008 23:19

lol clueless....

Janni · 18/04/2008 23:25

2 boys and a girl, just like my family of origin [shame], which was not particularly happy - so maybe I am trying to relive an improve upon it.

If I had any more I would feel it meant I couldn't think of anything better to do and if I had any less it would be too conventional.

3 works for me and we have no room in the flat for any more! and maybe one day in the not too distant future I might be able to get a job

Janni · 18/04/2008 23:26

Damn - how do you do italics?

Janni · 18/04/2008 23:26

Oh, it worked that time

mustrunmore · 18/04/2008 23:28

I am delighted to not be having any more ever. I love the boys, but 2 boys in one house is plenty thank you. And i'm finding that focussingf on them growing up has easily repleaced the being-babies stuff

Janni · 18/04/2008 23:32

Maidamess

I understand!

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kerryk · 21/04/2008 10:30

so glad i am not the only one who feels like this

i have been away for the weekend and we only had one holdall in the boot and some extra shoes and jackets, i remember when we had filled the boot and all the footwells and i still had to sit with a changing box on my knee.

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Nighbynight · 21/04/2008 11:29

great thread kerry! I will join. Id have to win the lottery before I was tempted to have nr 5.

scattyspice · 21/04/2008 12:55

Two is plenty for me too. Mine are 4 and 3 and play well together. They gang up on me (which is very funny) and we can go for long walks (DS walks and DD in backpack). I'm looking forward to the summer for days out and camping.

I find babies and toddlers a bit of a tie TBH.

GrrrlInterrupted · 21/04/2008 12:57

no more for me! DH has had his appointment through for the snip

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