Have a 16 month old. Went back to work when he was 13 months for 3-4 days. Took annual leave to make it 2.5 days currently. I used to come back from work and he was in a mood generally. I do have understand how hard it is parenting and being with a child all day so I thought fair enough.
Recently I discussed with him that I may need to do out of hours work on a weekend as part of my training. He already knew I was doing it hours but thought it was just evenings (after a full day of childcare which I find difficult but was happy to make the sacrife). He got annoyed as weekends were his time to chill. Anyway he apologised and we got over that.
Im now attending my close cousins wedding and I discussed this with him a while ago and he agreed to come to my parents and look after baby in the evenings as in do dinner and bedtime for 2 hours. He’d rather have not attended anyway. He’s seemed generally a bit on edge this weekend and I’ve appreciated he’s come for me. Anyway I went out to get some presents whilst baby was napping. I asked him if he wanted to come with me and he didn’t. But baby woke up from nap early and so he had to give him his lunch. Since I got back he’s been really annoyed and refused to explain why, saying he’s fine. My mum was cooking lunch but he’s decided to go out himself alone now. Has been telling me to mind my own business and calm down when I’ve just been asking him what was wrong. It has upset me. And I do appreciate he’s come for me but I asked if he was ok out of concern. He’s stormed off and my mum is now questioning where he is for lunch.
Anyway there’s one more day of the wedding left and I’m afraid to go as I feel like leaving him with baby will end up being the end of my marriage! But I’m also exhausted at him constantly getting annoyed about looking after his baby. I generally do 75% of the childcare anyway and did 99% during Mat leave. Should I go on the last day of the wedding or how should I approach any further conversation with him when he eventually gets back?