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Just because I'm a WOHM doesn't mean I don't want to do things with my toddler

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 22:01

So why oh why is every bloody group or activity during working hours? And why was the only lunchtime event I could find (a parent and toddler music group) cancelled due to lack of interest? Now DH has to take him to the morning session unless I take the next ten weeks of Tues am off work. Which is fine, but it rather defeats the object.

I didn't want to post in AIBU but, well, AIBU?

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pointydog · 11/04/2008 22:59

I wasn't trying to be accusatory. I just meant, if you've got to work, you do miss out on all that drinking tea and wandering after your 2 year old while they do "gymnastics".

I think you have a good point and a weekend baby/toddler group would do extremely well in the right area.

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:01

Elkiedee - DS is 20 months. I had to go back to work when he was 5 months.

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Pavlovthecat · 11/04/2008 23:02

Pointy- many WOHM do not choose this lifestyle.

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Pavlovthecat · 11/04/2008 23:03

twinkle - how about a sat group for us in say? Durham? LOL

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:04

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Prufrock · 11/04/2008 23:04

I know your dh is a SAHD but are there any day nurseries near you? You might find working parents who are interested in weekend activities there - the nursery might even be interested in setting soem up

pointydog · 11/04/2008 23:04

I wasn't making any heavy comment by saying choose the world of work. touche turtle

elkiedee · 11/04/2008 23:06

I have "chosen" to go back to work full time, at least for the moment. Why not? But whether it's choice or circumstances, women who work with kids still want as much or more to do stuff with their children. I don't want to spend weekend days bickering at home with dp, sticking the baby rapidly turning into a toddler (eek!) in his playpen all the time because I'm worried about what he'll do if I don't. Plus dp has to do some weekend shifts.

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:09

Daycare is such an issue in this area. Where we used to live there was one within a 50 mile radius. DS went for half a day a week but never really enjoyed it so we've stopped it now.

There are a couple more a bit nearer in Inverness - it's a good idea, I might see about approaching them.

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:11

Yep, nothing wrong with choosing to do it either Elkiedee. And I do really enjoy being at work, don't get me wrong (now that I finally have a job I like).

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:13

Sorry, I'm turning this into a monologue. But that's a good point Elkiedee. At the weekend I really want to get out and do stuff as a family. But DH just wants a break from DS and wants to do stuff on his own. Meaning DS and I are on our own (often without the car), and I'd definitely appreciate having something to go to.

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harpomarx · 11/04/2008 23:18

are you very rural Twinkle?

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:20

Yep. 2 miles outside the nearest hamlet which is 6 miles from the nearest village up a single track road.

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elkiedee · 11/04/2008 23:21

Gosh, that's remote!

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:24

Yeah, but it's lovely though and we're right oppposite a loch. And there are other houses around so we're not isolated, but there aren't many kids up this way and half the houses are second homes

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Pavlovthecat · 11/04/2008 23:27

Twinkle - I have learnt a lot from this thread. Not least that many of those posting, including me, are not rural, and might take things for granted in presuming that services offered are standard, or at least possible.

I respect you and your family decisions, it will pay off, even if you dont get to do nursery rhyme group!

harpomarx · 11/04/2008 23:27

ooh, Twinkle, sounds gorgeous but very tough with a kid!

I was brought up in the countryside but nothing like that, a town in comparison!

you say you've moved recently, have you got friends from elsewhere with kids who you could invite up for long weekends? I'd go like a shot if I was your friend!

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:41

There is a toddler group in the village which DH is going to try next week. And he WILL keep going - I'll make sure of it. We need to meet people around here or there'll be no one to help when we get snowed in.

I think it will be a great place to bring up DS, and we're actually only around half an hour from Inverness and there's quite a lot going on there.

Yes we do have some friends with children - would be more like a week than a long weekend I think, but I know they're keen on coming. I also have a work colleague with a toddler not much younger than DS, and we've been planning to meet up with our families for ages now. His DW feels the same as me about working. So worry not - we'll be fine.

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Pavlovthecat · 11/04/2008 23:49

Twinkle - so when can i up come up with DD ?

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Twinklemegan · 11/04/2008 23:53

Gosh, how far would that be?! About 800 miles! You're very welcome if you're brave enough (DH's family in Surrey haven't been brave enough as yet - I think they think they'll fall off the edge of the world). You've not been on the post-natal club much recently..

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fairylights · 13/04/2008 11:05

really agree with pistachio, i very much wish we were bringing up ds where you are! Also i might go mad from not seeing other people..thats probably why we're not

kbaby · 13/04/2008 11:36

Twinkle- I agree with you. I would love there to be more things to do with DS on the weekends as thats the only time I get to spend with him and even on the weekends I dont want to stay in the house all weekend.
I would love to take him to baby swimming but all lessons are in the week. It will be easier in the summer as you can hang about the park and meet other mums that way.

I know its a long way off for you yet but wehn they start nursery school there are more things to do on the weekend then as the organisers know they are in school in the week.
dd for example goes swimming lessons and dancing and parties etc.

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