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Pram toppled with baby in

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:06

Hey guys. Start off with I feel awful and I feel sick that it even happened. I missed a curb and he toppled over strapped in. I immediately grabbed him out to check for bruises and I can't see anything. He has a little red mark on his head but its not bruised. Now I have an appointment at the GP but I just feel like worst mum in the world. Other than being sick, what do I need to keep an eye out for ?

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35965a · 09/07/2024 09:08

These things happen occasionally, at least he was strapped in so he was as safe as he could possibly be in that situation. You’ve done everything right, checked him over and have a GP appointment. Don’t panic, that’s all you can do and you’ve done it.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:10

35965a · 09/07/2024 09:08

These things happen occasionally, at least he was strapped in so he was as safe as he could possibly be in that situation. You’ve done everything right, checked him over and have a GP appointment. Don’t panic, that’s all you can do and you’ve done it.

I feel like such an awful mum. He's fine playing with toys and eating whilst we wait for this appointment. I'm usually so careful

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MuffinCHeeler · 09/07/2024 09:11

Please give yourself a break op, it's an accident and has happened to many of us. You're doing the right thing getting him checked. Give him and yourself a big cuddle.

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35965a · 09/07/2024 09:12

RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:10

I feel like such an awful mum. He's fine playing with toys and eating whilst we wait for this appointment. I'm usually so careful

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Sometimes accidents cannot be avoided no matter how careful we are. Don’t feel awful, sounds like he is absolutely fine and you both just got a fright more than anything!

Overthebow · 09/07/2024 09:14

You’re not an awful mum. You made sure he was strapped in his pram so that if something like this happened he would be safe, and he was. It was an accident, he will be fine.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:14

MuffinCHeeler · 09/07/2024 09:11

Please give yourself a break op, it's an accident and has happened to many of us. You're doing the right thing getting him checked. Give him and yourself a big cuddle.

I'm so scared. I feel like I'm failing him

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MintTwirl · 09/07/2024 09:15

This happened to me once with ds2, it’s horrible but a total accident and doesn’t make you(or me) a bad parent. Sometimes things just happen.
In all likelihood baby will be fine and you are doing the right thing in getting him checked out. Lots of cuddles for baby and maybe a nice slice of cake for you today.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:15

35965a · 09/07/2024 09:12

Sometimes accidents cannot be avoided no matter how careful we are. Don’t feel awful, sounds like he is absolutely fine and you both just got a fright more than anything!

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I'm still shaking, he's fine now but I feel like I don't want to push the pram anymore

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:15

Overthebow · 09/07/2024 09:14

You’re not an awful mum. You made sure he was strapped in his pram so that if something like this happened he would be safe, and he was. It was an accident, he will be fine.

Ive never ever been so scared in my life

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:16

MintTwirl · 09/07/2024 09:15

This happened to me once with ds2, it’s horrible but a total accident and doesn’t make you(or me) a bad parent. Sometimes things just happen.
In all likelihood baby will be fine and you are doing the right thing in getting him checked out. Lots of cuddles for baby and maybe a nice slice of cake for you today.

I'm worried the GP will judge me , and I can't eat cake unfortunately:(

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systemicmotivations · 09/07/2024 09:17

You are not an awful mum OP. I did the same thing when my son was a baby, tripped at the kerb and the pram fell over with him in it. I felt the same as you- like the most awful mother. Mum guilt is huge especially those first few years! But you are keeping an eye on your baby, you have a plan in place to have him checked over and you describe him as playing with his toys which suggests he's cognitively and mentally pretty content. You are a good mum. You just can't control gravity and when we're tired and doing umpteen things in our heads (which we all are especially the first few years) we sometimes take a mis-step and trip. Your pram protected your son as it's meant to and one day this will be a story you tell him while he laughs because trust me when he's a teenager he will! Cuddles to you OP. You sound like a very caring and worried mum. An awful mum would not care and would not be worried one bit.

MintTwirl · 09/07/2024 09:19

RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:16

I'm worried the GP will judge me , and I can't eat cake unfortunately:(

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They won’t judge, they see these things all the time. Are you ok OP? I know it feels terrible when something like this happens but in general are you feeling ok?

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:20

systemicmotivations · 09/07/2024 09:17

You are not an awful mum OP. I did the same thing when my son was a baby, tripped at the kerb and the pram fell over with him in it. I felt the same as you- like the most awful mother. Mum guilt is huge especially those first few years! But you are keeping an eye on your baby, you have a plan in place to have him checked over and you describe him as playing with his toys which suggests he's cognitively and mentally pretty content. You are a good mum. You just can't control gravity and when we're tired and doing umpteen things in our heads (which we all are especially the first few years) we sometimes take a mis-step and trip. Your pram protected your son as it's meant to and one day this will be a story you tell him while he laughs because trust me when he's a teenager he will! Cuddles to you OP. You sound like a very caring and worried mum. An awful mum would not care and would not be worried one bit.

He seems absolutely fine. He's at the stage now where its "mum leave me alone I'm playing". I'm sat here balling my eyes out. He's my first so I'm such a mess.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:21

I'm just upset I think. He's my first so like I'm overprotective people say but I just like to make sure he's okay

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:21

MintTwirl · 09/07/2024 09:19

They won’t judge, they see these things all the time. Are you ok OP? I know it feels terrible when something like this happens but in general are you feeling ok?

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systemicmotivations · 09/07/2024 09:26

My son is my first too and yes I was much more over protective of him than my second. I stayed super over protective of him up to about age 13 when he asked me why I'm so scared and told me to chill Blush
I've eased off a lot since that chat but I do understand the worry and the emotions you'll have at the moment. It might be worth speaking with your doctor about your feelings though as I know for me I has severe PND and PTSD following a traumatic birth and things surrounding our son's health issues at the time (fine now). It'll be ok OP. Promise.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:28

systemicmotivations · 09/07/2024 09:26

My son is my first too and yes I was much more over protective of him than my second. I stayed super over protective of him up to about age 13 when he asked me why I'm so scared and told me to chill Blush
I've eased off a lot since that chat but I do understand the worry and the emotions you'll have at the moment. It might be worth speaking with your doctor about your feelings though as I know for me I has severe PND and PTSD following a traumatic birth and things surrounding our son's health issues at the time (fine now). It'll be ok OP. Promise.

I'm supposed to protect him and I toppled him over , I think he cried more out of shock as like I said I've checked him over. He's currently crawling around the living room and has just had some yogurts. Like I said I just keep crying

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Boobymonster · 09/07/2024 09:31

My mum once threw my sister into the middle of a road when she was a newborn as she had her in her arms, and didn’t see a gate post thing in the middle of the path and tripped. She was fine, and hasn’t held it against my mum!
Please try to remember you are human and not a perfect mum robot. Baby will have forgotten it already!

AegonT · 09/07/2024 09:33

Accidents happen. You are a good safe parent as the injuries sound minimal thanks to you strapping him in properly.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:35

Boobymonster · 09/07/2024 09:31

My mum once threw my sister into the middle of a road when she was a newborn as she had her in her arms, and didn’t see a gate post thing in the middle of the path and tripped. She was fine, and hasn’t held it against my mum!
Please try to remember you are human and not a perfect mum robot. Baby will have forgotten it already!

I just feel like I failure. He should have been safe with me

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:36

AegonT · 09/07/2024 09:33

Accidents happen. You are a good safe parent as the injuries sound minimal thanks to you strapping him in properly.

He'd never be In there without being strapped , I think it was more shock , I haven't stopped shaking and happened almost an hour ago

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SnapdragonToadflax · 09/07/2024 09:37

These things happen. If he's playing he's very unlikely to be badly hurt, and you're getting him checked out anyway. You're a good mum.

I forgot to do up the straps on the buggy once, and my toddler-age son toppled out. We had just walked away from a lake - if he'd wriggled five minutes earlier he'd have fallen in. I still think about it when I'm falling asleep, it still makes me feel sick... but it was an accident. They happen, unfortunately. All you can do is your best.

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RoseDeer · 09/07/2024 09:39

SnapdragonToadflax · 09/07/2024 09:37

These things happen. If he's playing he's very unlikely to be badly hurt, and you're getting him checked out anyway. You're a good mum.

I forgot to do up the straps on the buggy once, and my toddler-age son toppled out. We had just walked away from a lake - if he'd wriggled five minutes earlier he'd have fallen in. I still think about it when I'm falling asleep, it still makes me feel sick... but it was an accident. They happen, unfortunately. All you can do is your best.

So you don't think I'm being silly getting him checked out by gp then? Close relatives are saying I'm being silly. He's fine, he's eating, he's playing so why would I go gp.

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Boobymonster · 09/07/2024 09:44

If it will give you peace of mind then get him checked by the GP. It is highly likely they will tell you he’s fine, and you don’t need to go, however you seem very anxious so I understand why you want to make doubly sure.

Boobymonster · 09/07/2024 09:45

If a mum friend came to you and told you this same story would you call her failure? Try to be kinder to yourself 💐