9 months of high needs baby

[NewMomma21]

Im not really sure why I’m posting, maybe in the hopes of hearing some positive experiences from people who’ve been through the same.

My DS is 9 months old and has been a very high needs baby since birth. I’m just so exhausted from it all. The constant noise of him crying and whinging all day long. He wakes early (usually before 6) and until he goes to bed before 7, he complains. He is never happy. I can’t bear the relentless noise anymore. I have waited month after month for some kind of improvement and it hasn’t materialised. I’ve tried everything, baby wearing etc and nothing has worked in any substantial way.

Has anyone had a relentlessly grumpy baby that just stayed like this? It’s just so hard

Have you got one of those little trikes with handle and straps for that age? Mine loved it.

I was that parent people moan about who ‘walk around looking at phone and not interacting with child’. Except I was interacting the other 18+ hrs he was awake 24/7, but those 20 min walks around block each day he would sit in trike and not moan, and I would relax and read on my phone in peace.

it won’t get worse. But might take a while to see huge improvements. I think once he can move it will be first big leap to help, so hopefully not too far off

@NewMomma21 how are things now? My 10m old is definitely a high needs baby but every time I google things it comes up with autism which is only fuelling my anxiety! Thanks

Haven't read everyone's replies but high needs baby boy too. Marked improvement from 18-24 months and we have mostly good days now at nearly 2.5 years. Hang in there, try to keep your sanity, it is bloody difficult. I found loop earphones good for dulling the noise

Hi there, my son is now 13m old. I am happy to report he is significantly better. He is almost walking independently and can shuffle around very effectively, this autonomy reduced the crying very significantly. He is now babbling constantly. I imagine once he gets talking he will improve again. I too was so worried about autism, a lot of replies on various threads here associated with high needs and a later autism diagnosis. That has definitely not been the case for us. As a doctor I saw very early on said, DS simply hated being a baby. He has a wonderful little personality emerging and honestly once the walking started he really calmed. I’ve never experienced anything like the stress and overwhelm of the first year of his life but we are hopefully on the other side now and you will be too. It’s so hard, my advice is be kind to yourself, take all the help you can, walking was a help to us we just got out and walked as much as we could and when I let go of all my expectations that things would improve at a particular month I felt it was much easier. Hope that helps!