My 13 year old brother is a monter, and my parents don't care - what do I do?

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Almost 2 years ago now I moved back in with my parents with my then 9 year old child after a messy divorce.

I was still pulling myself together, but was ready to start my life over and create a relationship with my 13 year old brother. He was an actually baby when i moved out and I never truly kept in touch with him and was happy my own baby would have something of a sibling.

He is a total mysoginist. An absolute monster to girls at his school, his friends and him spew the most racist vile things and he misbehaves with my mother an father - who say absolutely nothing to him about his behavior. His school has called us multiple times about his behavior towards girls but have always brushed it off as 'boys will be boys'. From the moment he wakes up, he is on his phone, which I fear is influencing his behavior.

I don't much care to correct his behavior, nor do I want to take on that headache. How do i protect my child from becoming this?

So what have your parents said about it - just 'boys will be boys'?

You're in their house, you're all part of the same family, so you either engage with him, try to sort him out, be a big sister to him or you move out.

I don't see any alternative. Don't you care that he is being poorly parented? He's only 13. He's your little brother. With the likes of Andrew Tate around, it needs proactive guidance and support to steer him away. If your parents aren't doing it, then you need to.

Pull him up on it every time, in front of your parents. Shake up their ideas. Explain that with attitudes like that, no decent employer will want him.

Will you ever move out?

I blame your parents and social media. He'll grow up believing that women owe men. He won't attract nice and confident women, He'll end up abusing women without confidence. It's not really down to you to do anything, apart from telling him his attitude stinks. I'd move out as soon as I could, otherwise your child's going to learn from him. To be honest if you've never formed a relationship with him for the past 13 years, it's too late now. Unless you start taking him every Saturday to watch football or something, I really don't know how you'd bond now. I'd have a word with your parents and tell them they need to discipline him better.

Literally exacty that. Even his scool.

Yes, my parents are older than most. They raised me and my sister and then decided to have another some 15 years later lol. They're not bad people, but how do I put this... just not the most involved? Thank you by the way for the advice! Will definitely look up something like this, even something like sports might work.

God bless