Hi mums!, so my daughter is really struggling in school. There’s a boy throwing chairs etc screaming all day etc, the class get evacuated daily, nobody is learning etc
my daughter hasn’t had any support, her mental health has declined massively etc and I’ve exhausted everything (been to the school, council, governors etc) she’s been on reduced hours which didn’t help, I’ve been through camhs etc. we’ve looked around another school and it isn’t doable due to my son being happy in his class and breakfast club isn’t affordable.
I was telling my mum and sister , and said if nothing gets done soon I’ll have to home school her. Because she’s having actual panick attacks every day now.
and my sister said well I’ll have to take courses as her friend did when she homeschooled. So I told her no, you don’t need qualifications to homeschool, and don’t have to follow the national curriculum etc.
she said yes you do have to follow the correct curriculum! And I’d have to apply, so I explained to her that no you don’t apply, you just deregister and the council will contact me in their own time. And I don’t need to follow a curriculum I can base learning around my child etc. and politely asked her to research it.
anyway my mum and sister are both saying it not doing what’s best for my child and she has to be in school or she won’t learn anything, won’t socialise etc and I’d be taking her out of society!
I mean, I’ve done plenty of research. I’ve researched all avenues of every option way in advance as obviously I havnt decided yet and my daughter has input too. She’s 10 and understands the options etc. so no, even if she does homeschool she isn’t taken out of society at all!
I also know my own daughter! So how dare they suggest I don’t know what’s best for her!
im the one sat with her every night when she cries, im the one taking her to school every day watching her sob and beg to go home as soon as we get near her classroom. I’m the one coaxing her into the room, watching a teaching assistant try to convince her to go into another room and calm down before going in. I see her go to her room after school , feeling like she can’t breathe, already worried about the next day.
I don’t want to fall out with them but they’ve really overstepped here. And I’m actually really annoyed. I didn’t ask for their opinion and don’t need it.
especially when they can’t be bothered to research it before commenting. And being wrong.
suppose I needed a rant , but are any of your families like this?
I don’t agree with some of my sisters parenting methods but I never say anything. Because that’s her child not mine! So I’m respectful. Shame she isn’t the same towards me.