Please help child with bad toothache

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My daughter has horrible tooth ache but she is autistic and won't let the dentist look never mind do anything so they can't, we are awaiting a referral to the hospital but been told this will be 6 months minimum but in the mean time she is screaming and crying in pain I can't take her anywhere as she is kicking off horrifically, she's screaming the place down but won't take any medication, what else can I do I'm at a loss

Just an update we went to the hospital today kings college were amazing and she cooperated way more than she has anywhere
else so I'm so glad we went! Unfortunately to say it wasn't good news and she does need a tooth removed and it's an adult tooth I am absolutely devastated and feel like the worst mum in the world. I'm so upset feel
like I've failed her, they are doing it next month so she doesn't need to wait the 6 months so at least that's good news

I'm really pleased you've got an answer op. Don't beat yourself up, it's not your fault and you've done your very best for her and a brilliant job of sorting it so far. ❤️

Have you managed to get painkillers in to her now?

So glad you were able to see someone. That’s such a shame she is loosing a tooth though. Hopefully she will now be motivated to keep her remaining teeth extra clean!

So pleased to hear that Op. and well done to your daughter for coping so well today

She's taking pain relief but she has literally been screaming all day? No matter what I've given her she's screaming and crying all day long I have even tried clove oil (which I know works) but she's been hysterically screaming all day, I'm losing the will to live if I'm honest I am extremely stressed she's literally upstairs bashing the floor and screaming I can't even have 5 minutes to myself just for a break from it it's been relentless

Having just suffered from horrific toothache myself I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. If she's got an infection I don't think she can wait a month. I would be looking to go private.

They've said no infection

And there’s nothing they can do like pack the tooth to relieve the pain? It’s just awful to leave her like that for a month.

Unfortunately not

Could you try PALS if you’re in England?

Yes I'm in England what would that be for? She barely let them look (although was better) they wouldn't be able to do anything to it because no one is prepared to or willing to physically restrain her for obvious reasons and she could end up hurting people/ herself they just kept telling me to use pain relief but it isn't doing much at all.

Can't imagine how hard this must be. Obviously she's in pain, could you not make her see that if she'll let someone look they can make the pain go away? I couldn't have managed another week with the pain I was in, I got my tooth removed in a couple of days. I really hope someone can help you, it must be so distressing for you both.

I wondered if PALS might be able to help speed things up, they could surely sedate her to look? It’s inhumane to leave her on so much pain for a month, it must be horrific for you both. I know my autistic dd wouldn’t let them look and I can imagine how distressed you both must be.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4928348-pls-help-tooth-ache-autistic-dd-emergency

is this thread any help?