Anyone have a girl and a boy?

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I have a daughter and then a son with an age gap of ~5 years. They are so close now in their toddler and primary school age. I sometimes want a third but worry about the impact it will have on my two, but then I worry about the two feeling alone since we have no other family around.

If you have a girl and a boy that are now older, how did it turn out? Were you content with 2 and now happy you didn't have a third?

My two have always been close. They're adults now and thick as thieves

I have a girl and a boy with a 4 year age gap, now mid/late teens.
DD used to Mother DS a lot and he adored her, much more scared of her teling him off than us but to be honest they aren't getting on great at the moment. They are very very different characters and have different interests and their paths don't cross much but I do think that they will get along better as DS grows up a bit more and DD doesn't find him as annoying.
They don't argue or anything, just don't interact much. It does make me a bit sad to be honest.

I have one of each who are now 18 and 16. They loved each other from the off and played together when they were little. As young adults now, they are close and tell each other things they don’t want to tell us, their parents! I like that they can be a source of support for each other. Plus they also enjoy ganging up and taking the piss out of their parents 😂

I had wanted a third but my mental health wasn’t great at the time and DH and I decided to stick with two. Really glad we did now as I wonder if a third would have disrupted the bond that already existed between DC1 and DC2.

Mine are the same, a boy and a girl and 5 years apart. I think they are as fine as any siblings are. You can never guarantee if you will get along with your sibling. It's much more down to personality and life experiences and family dynamics than age/gender.

Mine are now both in primary school and I don't know anyone of their friends who gets along well with their siblings. I mean, mine do love each other and they can be incredibly sweet, but they do fight viciously. Dh and his brother are obviously both boys and 3 years apart and they absolutely hated each other until they were adults. They are very close now.

I think in the longer run, it will have a lot more to do with what sort of people they are and their personalities if they get along. I wouldn't use that as a deciding factor in having another child though. Have one if you want a 3rd child. I only ever wanted 2, was very happy I got one of each, never had the slightest desire to have another.

Mine are 13 and 11. Sometimes they are thick as thieves, sometimes they need space from each other (my son winds my daughter up and she has a very short fuse). They absolutely adore each other though and really support each other when it's needed. I have a sister and I'm not particularly close to her, so it's interesting to see the mixed sex dynamic, like you I wonder how it will end up!

Oh and never had a desire to have any more!

Mine are incredibly close even as young adults. They have had periods of driving each other mad but they have an amazing bond that I never had with my sister.
And no, no desire for any more. A boy and a girl was perfect for me - I would have always worried about one getting left out if there was one more in the mix!

Thank you for the responses, so nice to read through.

Do you think a third would have made this bond you refer to any different?

Weren't you asking this a couple of weeks ago?
Sounds very familiar

From my perspective, yes a third would have changed the bond between my first two somewhat. How could it not? Presumably the first two would have loved the DC3 too, but they have such a great relationship and I’m glad it didn’t have to change. I also worried so much about one of the DC being left out. So for me, two has been great.

My children are girl, boy, girl, ages 14, 12 and 7. My son is always left out, as the girls are really close. As it happens My girls are really shy/timid/anxious and my son makes friends with anyone. He will walk upto a stranger and introduce himself, he always says life is more fun with friends and that's what he does.

i have two with a smallish age gap. Wish I had had a third- at the time two felt enough but now I’d love to have had another, but it is too late.

I have DS/DD (adults) they get on fine (though of course she thinks her brother is an idiot 99% of the time !)

I never wanted three , I am Middle Child with Middle Child Syndrome so I didn't want to foist that on my daughter .

I have one of each with a 2 year gap. They haven’t got on since they were about 10 but are becoming quite civil to each other now they’re students. My brother and I were the same (same gap but other way round). I had a wobble about having a third but have been so glad we didn’t, though largely for financial and practical reasons. DH was one of 3, with a bigger gap at the end, but thought the third suffered and didn’t want that.

I have a girl then a boy, 5.5 years gap. They get on so well at this stage in life and we are fortunate their personalities rarely clash. I was broody for a 3rd, but I wouldn't want to upset the balance or stretch my resources further as a parent.

I know one friend has 3 with a five year gap each time but I can't attest to how close the siblings are, she has a good relationship with each.

I have an 11 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. They get on better than me and my sister did!

I do sometimes wish I had a 3rd but the more I think about it, the more I miss squishy little cheeks and cherubic smiles. I don’t actually want another child. But another baby. So for that I’m glad i never did

Nearly 14 yr old boy and girl of nearly 17. They were playing on the Switch last night and giggling like nutters. They are very close and tell each everything, have the odd squabble.

i wanted a 3rd but DH didn’t (we are both one of 3) I’m glad now we stopped at 2, the dynamics would be so different

What did you experience as the middle child? I don’t quite understand it.

I have one of each and they have always been close, and now as adults they are closer than ever despite having very different lives/interests. I never seriously considered a third and I have no regrets.

Mainly feeling a bit stuck in the middle .
Older sister had the priviledges of being the Eldest Child ( we shared a room which she only let me in to sleep in , she was studying aka staying out of the way so she didn't have to help round the house )
Youngest (Brother) used to go out to play aka staying out of the way , spoiled by my Mum.
My Mum was the type who CBA cooking or cleaning so a lot of it got landed on me .And most annoying it was Your sister is always so tidy . Yes because she was in the bloody bedroom all the time and Mum is the untidiest person ever . When DSis left for University I got my own room, Mum was all you promised to keep it tidy , I replied Well you're not much of a role model ( I was 15 , and 15yo can be right gits )

The teachers at school never compared us . Which is correct

Middle Child learns to compromise .

I;m late 50s , we joke about it now
I am not in the least bit bitter (obvs)
But still no 3rd DC For me thank you

Ds has just turned 21 and dd is 16. They get on really well, in fact dd has a break in her gcses next week and is spending a couple of nights with him at his university house. I did want another one (I do also have 2 much older dds in their 30s) as I had always wanted 5 but I'm so glad I didn't as I think it would have affected their relationship.

I have both with a 4 year gap. They love each other to bits right now but I do know that will change as they get older. A 12 year old girl and an 8 year old boy aren't going to be best friends probably. But, there was 4 years between me and my brother and by the time we were late teens we became very close and remained that way. Unfortunately he died nearly two years ago of cancer, but I still regard him as one of my best pals.

Thank you for sharing, I hope you’re ok 💚

There were 12 months between me and my brother. We were very close growing up but as we entered our teens we became less close though as we matured we became close again. He died of cancer 2 months ago not long after his diagnosis and I am absolutely devastated. My mother actually said she wished she'd had another dc as now I'm an only child. It wouldn't have been the same - we had a special relationship because there were just the two if us. I'm sorry for your loss.

I have a girl and then boy with around 3.5 yrs gap. They're both still little though. I'm now pregnant and there will be another 3yrs gap.

I'm one of 3 myself - girl (me), less than 2yrs later boy, 2.5 yrs later girl. We remain a close family as adults, we have all settled in the area we grew up and all live within walking distance of each other and our DPs. Me and DB are a lot closer than either of us are to our DSis though but that's due to her personality, my DPs also are closer to me and DB for the same reason really.

I have two girls and a boy but they’re 10, 3 and 2mo. Too young to really answer your question.

However, my DH is one of 4 - eldest DSis, older DBro, DH and then younger DSis. He constantly fought with his DBro and younger DSis as a child and he still clashes with DSis now. He’s closest to his eldest DSis now and gets on with DBro but they’re not close.

I have one DSis and we’re much closer.