Hi, so this is just one of many many things that has happened and in my opinion turned into an unnecessary argument.....myself and my partner live with my 6 year old daughter, our 1 year old and half the time with his daughter too. He is a very calm patient father with his daughter, with my daughter he is not. I've always taken a step back with parenting his daughter, I've only ever told her off a few times and always gently as she is very quick to get upset and then we all end up apologising to her. Anyway with my daughter she can be the sweetest, most thoughtful wee girl but also she has a wild side as most 6 year olds do. My issues isn't soo much when we can clearly see she's in an over excited piano g the boundaries mood it's when she's being perfectly well behaved and he's still difficult with her.
Yesterday after dinner she asked to go out and play in the sandpit with her baby sister, it was a lovely evening and I thought it be a lovely relaxing thing to do too as they are both always soo calm in it. My partner immediately just said no. I didn't undermine him in my opinion as I didn't say no let's go out and ignore what he's said but I said to him why dont you think it's a good idea? He responded by saying it's nearly the babies bed time and she needs to wind down...I said oh remember she had a later nap today so I think she'll be up another hour even though it wasnt even her usual bedtime yet! He then said I've told her no. I pointed out that my daughter could still go out as it's not her bedtime and I think it'll be nice for the baby to winddown sitting out in the nice evening. He said she should just wind down in here on you...I was like what...she never just sits on me she's up playing until we take her to bed or he sticks the TV on for her normally! He then lost it huffing do what you want you've totally undermined me and slammed the door. I went out with both of them after that and we were having a lovely time, I went in to say oh come on please come out and he was acting all hurt , how dare I go against what he's said etc. I said I think you're being a bit dramatic and I didn't intentionally undermine I tried to discuss it with him. I kind of expected him to go oh ye that's right let's go out not all this nonsense he came out with. It constantly feels like he says no to my daughter for the sake of it or because he can't be bothered. Am I in the wrong or was I right to remind him of a late nap and it might be a nice thing to go and do, is that undermining??