Me and Dh have a 3 year old DS. For the majority of the time we’ve had DS it’s been me who will get up with him if he wakes in the night and get up with him in the mornings. This is because my dh is the one who works and I’m a SAHM. We did have a little system going last year where we’d take it in turns to get up with him in the mornings but that’s somehow slipped. Dh will also occasionally get up with DS if he’s had a particularly bad night and I’ve not had a lot of sleep. although this is more likely to happen if it’s the weekend and he doesn’t have work.
Ds has recently started asking for daddy when I go in to his room in the mornings. It started off with him asking nicely but it’s now turned into full on crying if daddy doesn’t come in. Dh is really reluctant to get up, and gets really annoyed with DS saying it’s not fair to ask for him every morning. This morning he said he’ll probably have to call in sick to work as he’s too tired! DS doesn’t get up overly early, normally 6.30-7, sometimes later.
I don’t know if it’s me but I can’t see the issue with dh getting up. I’m very much a morning person so it’s never bothered me that I’ve been the default parent to get up with our DS. However, the fact he’s now asking for daddy and getting upset about it, I just can’t understand why dh is making such a fuss about getting up! His job isn’t particularly hard or physical and he works a normal 5 day week, 9-5.30 day, so no long hours.
it’s turning into a daily thing that DS cries until daddy gets up and it’s making me upset that this is the way we start our day. The ‘it’s not fair’ comment from my dh really jarred with me as I’ve not once complained about being the one to get up with our DS. If it’s not fair for him to do it now, how come he’s found it perfectly fair for me to have been doing it for the past 3 years?
just interested on others opinions on this!