Help on child bedroom arrangements?

[reynold]

Hello everyone, I just want some advice, I have a 5 year old son, 7 year old daughter and 11 year old step son pregnant with another little boy , weve hady step son since he was 5 so he's always classed as my son also. We've recently changed bedrooms two youngest daughter and son have always shared a room , my dd has just turned 7 the council have said both boys need to share as there coming to inspect how small the rooms are to change our needs to bid for a 4 bed instead of 3 which we currently have, I liked my 2 youngest sharing personally. My eldest is very quiet but his behavior has changed massively since highschool , a lot of school calls for behavior etc which is never like him he just doesn't listen and now he certainly doesn't listen to me either, since changing him to share with his brother he's messing up the routines I has with the youngest 2 , ds 5 would be asleep by 8pm school night once the fan sounds are on, eldest goes to sleep at 8.30 due to him being up early to travel to high school , and he will lay in bed and stair at the ceiling till about 11pm he won't try close his eyes or anything , this meaning he's doing silly things in the bunk bed that's waking the youngest up , no matter how much you tell him he continues. I really regret my youngest sharing with him but I don't know what else to do the rooms are tiny I was even considering bringing him in my room with his dad and me but I've got a baby coming in 4 weeks too:/ any suggestions ?

@TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled , no he doesn't like fizzy drinks he's very fit and healthy in that aspect he likes to do a lot of hobbies , his phone stays on charge outside my bedroom due to the plugs been full in his There is only a set of 2 he's never been the one to do anything like that he I'll go check on them all at around 10:30 when I go to bed and he will be staring at the ceiling either messing around with his socks or a pillow, I'll say close your eyes it will help you sleep and he will just respond with "I'm bored I can't sleep" not sure what to do in that department if I'm honest

I would arrange the room until the inspector has been & swap it back, don't move beds or anything, just dump a few belongings around to make it appear that they are in the right rooms. The minute the inspection is done, move them back. Have you looked at Housing Associations, they are sometimes more lenient on how many bedrooms you can have, otherwise could you get a letter from school & your GP stating that the change of rooms can't be done for medical reasons, Ie your son's mental health.

@nat hey, currently waiting on a answer back about the letter he has counseling at school due to mental health with his birth mum, I've always wanted him to have his own space as he a been through alot, the only thing about just changing for inspection is the rooms are decorated to them e.g eldest is gaming wallpaper and decor with his name graffiti on the wall I had a painter do, my youngest was a split colour to gov them there own decor

Then give them a room each and you and your husband sleep in the living room or dining room of you have one.

If you owned a house, you would have to make do or pay for a bigger property: Plenty of people do.

It doesn't matter what the rooms are painted. "Yes they were painted last year before you advised us to change the sleeping arrangements. We have changed which rooms they sleep in. We can't afford to repaint." Job done.

@Scarletttulips I was thinking about changing my living room to my room with a sofa bed etc, I don't own my house no I wanted to move due to the area not been great anymore otherwise I was going to try get the loft converted with council permission but all the ceilings need dropping so it was a massive job that cost a lot

thankyou everyone who was kind enough to help me with opinions etc, I do appreciate the nice comments. I just want to say I see why young people or anyone in general and hesitant to ask for help/advice on here as a lot
Of people are so runs with there comments or advice for no reason some people are genuinely struggling dm need guidance or a little help in helping there decisions or whatever they need help with. Some of you should really take time in how you comment back and how your attitude / snarky comments affects people
For just asking questions and comments on my children and how I shouldn't have had more etc you never know what peoples back ground is to have children or what could have happened before commenting stuff like that. Thankyou everyone else for the help! ❤️

Rude*

Tricky. Better sleep would obviously be so much better for him. Does he read before bed? That might help. My ds was a terrible sleeper. We went as far as lavender pillow spray and lavender foot and hand lotion before bed. Read for 20 minutes. Lights off. He now is 12 and is much better.

@ThisLoftyLilacShark also rude, why would you assume I'm not from here? I'm from the uk thankyou, I struggled in school as a child but you're making out as you cannot read what I'm saying? I'm not complaining I was asking for peoples advice on how they have done these things etc. then there's weird people like yourself questioning if I'm from the uk because of certain spelling mistakes that I struggle with? That I also corrected myself after with! If you're a grown women you should really reflect on your childish comments as such. Behaviors appalling on someone that only asked for advice

Wow! You attempted to belittle someone’s education by being racist? On a sunday? Fuck me.

@TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled , Lavender spray! Never thought of that! I'm going to try that thank you! , he's never been a fantastic sleeper once he's asleep he doesn't like to wake up which is why the school asked us to work with a shorter bed time as he also struggles to concentrate at school so we had to take it down a notch to see if sleep improved unfortunately it hasn't of yet but I'm going to definitely try that spray !

Honestly i feel your pain. Up until very recently mine could only fall asleep with either me or dh next to him. Like having a toddler again. He now has the alexa in his room tell him a bed time story and is usually asleep before it is finished.

@TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled oh what we do to comfort them lol, my youngest will only
Sleep with the sound of a fan and a actual fan blowing on him, even if it's freezing cold 🥲😬

We had our youngest DD and DS share a room until they were 10 and 9 and they LOVED it. Even after we moved into a bigger house they would have occasional sleepovers in each others rooms at weekends with one sleeping on the massive pillow thing, so they could chat and catch up. I genuinely can't believe the council would come in and tell you that wasn't ok if it is what works best for you right now.

@ThisLoftyLilacShark now I cannot afford to pay for my children?? What the hell are you talking about? Firstly you're being racist saying I'm not from this country because I don't talk like you do. ( had difficulty learning in my childhood) now I cannot afford my children and don't deserve to have them? Get lost.

Uncalled for…and OP has taken on her stepson like he is her own!

@ThisLoftyLilacShark stop Pressuming I cannot afford to "house my children" in this day there's a cost of living crisis me and my partner work I'm on maternity leave at the moment our jobs pay enough to pay our current rent at the moment which isn't cheap. We was looking to move so we can rent to buy we're both 27. But to do that we have to be assessed for the right amount of bedrooms I'm not going to rent to buy something too small in the future am I? My house was fine bedroom wise I fell pregnant while on protection even though I shouldn't be explaining a thing to you. I'm heavily Catholic and don't believe In getting rid of a child I was given too by god if anyone else did that's there opinion I don't judge but I just don't do it my self personally . There for yes things happen but I only asked what other people's opinion on what they've done with there children. Which most people have explained and helped! You on the other hand have done nothing but be a stuck up cow with a racist back ground as I can tell.

@FTMaz thankyou, that boy will always be my son he calls me mum also took me a long time to build his trust but were very close now x

@ThisLoftyLilacShark I haven't complained and this post wasn't to rant, it was simply just to hear other people's arrangements that's it. You've made it awful to get opinions by saying I'm not from the uk " as you can tell" and saying I can't afford to house my kids or deserve them just because I asked peoples opinions on there children's bedroom arrangements ? Have a day off love

Just wait until DC have gone to school and switch duvets over during the day in case council comes. Then switch back when they go to bed. How will council know which DC are in which bed if they come apart from maybe duvets?

Honestly OP just ignore the troll she sounds absolutely vile and is not worth it just concentrate on the positive responses x