Is private school really worth it?

[milliec]

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Quattro - I work f/t and have since DS was v small.

And the classroom support makes a big difference to class numbers.

If I was paying for private (and if things became v difficult an secondary level for any reason, I would consider private school - can't actually afford it, I don't think, but don't have a huge objection to it on principle) I would not be able to bring myself to think that it wasn't really worth it. And, of course, can't bear to think that we are failing to give Ds 'the best' - so may be in denial about his state school . But the most inportant thing is - he's very very happy at his school.

But tbh i don't think my years at private school were worth it

No, don't worry. Mine get picked up from school. As you say, I wouldn't want them catching a Sun-reading habit ...

well no one can tell you

you cant do a controilled experiment

it just depends on school and kid

and extraneous unfathomable combination of circumstance

i have two girls dd1 went to indepoendent school dd2 16 months younger went to state comp

dd1 has been to uni been abroad confident socially aware just got her first graduate job for high powered polotical lobbyist co and has great bf etc etc

dd2 did disnamlly at school, lacks confidence, had terrible teen probs left school went to coollege dropped out and went back to school had a baby worked in pub and as a cleaner full time bf is a total loser

but she has recently picked up in confidence she does have ambitions she is clever tho doesnbt have the exams to show and has just been given a permanent office job she likes and is thinking of doing something in accountancy

she and i both think if she had gone to dd1 school things would have worked out differently

but maybe nbot

Quattro - sorry - that sounds more like being concerned about class!

But yes, of course mc black parents send children to private school - just like less wealthy / working class black (and white) parents REALLY care about thier children doing well at school.

And I have equally heard people have doubts about primary schools which have intakes 'from the estate'. What I'm saying is that the things peopel seem to want to avoid and think make a 'not good primary school' are often down to completely spurious thinking.

Blu's alluded to it - class size is the big factor I think. As far as we are concerned, anyhow. In Infants we have classes of 16 with a teacher and a TA, plus additional support for children with an IEP. This means they all read daily without relying on parent volunteers in the classroom - something which with hindsight we are also pleased about.
We had a good look at all our local options, failed to get a place in our preferred local state primary because it was so oversubscribed, decided against the other because we both WOTH and at the time it had NO after-school provision.
Choose the school that will suit your dd and you best. The most important thing is that she is happy. There are good and bad schools in both sectors, and suitable and unsuitable. But look at them all, even the ones you think you dislike. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Fio - I try to avoid those with parents who can't spell / type

And i don't mean cod! Have you been drinking, or are you breastfeeding with the other hand?

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You OK Fio?

Yes Blu, it does sound like that. I think in all honesty I am a bit like that. I'd rather people were kind and stuff but I am slightly frightened and at sea with people who haven't spent half their lives in formal education. It's a comfort zone thing mostly.

I love the pishy wnaky parents!

Ok. I am a pishy wnaky parent.

Actually not pishy as DD frequently has to remind me that she probably ought to do her homework
can I have pissy instead. Pissy wnaky is where I live.

Cod you are deliberately twisting my words

For sure if your DS plays county level tennis then you had to have taken him to a tennis club and tennis coaching. I flatly refuse to believe that your local state school had either the facilities or the squad or the support to enable him to do that.

And well done to the Codlet though

oh Fio - not much help realy but I used coconut oil with DD when she was in nappies as she had multiple allergies .
hope you find something to help

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Ds1's dad went to private school. He is a wnaker of the highest order - a very bloody polite wnaker, mind. He did his French O level four times and is a painter/decorator.
I'd say it's worth it if your kids are as thick as f*ck but you want them to have excellent manners anyway

Oh and he

No I'd better not Might get done for libel...

Fio - presumably you have tried sudocrem? people seem to rate metanium.

Quattro - I wish more people would be honest about the comfort zone thing, actually! I think a lot of the big mc panic about schools is caused by exactly that factor.

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