Husband not signing private school acceptance letter

[DisorganisedMummyTurningOrgnaised]

Im freaking out. I’ve worked so hard to get my son into a private school. Last week we got an acceptance letter, but I didn’t see that I needed to return the form by tomorrow midday. My husband is super stubborn and is saying that he won’t sign it as it’s his bed time and tomorrow morning he’ll be out the door first thing, not returning till late in the evening. Will the school still accept my son if only I sign it? What am I going to do?! I don’t want him to loose his place.

Why does it need 2 signatures at this stage? Single parents send their kids to private school I expect.
Just send it.
All other forms can have him on it if you want.
On a side note. Your DH is a bit of a dick.

So he doesn’t want your child to go to that school?
Put the pen in his hand and the paper in front of him and tell him he needs to sign it now. If he doesn’t want to, then you’ll have to keep him up past his bedtime with an argument . Don’t let him get away with playing silly buggers. If he doesn’t want DS to go to that school then he needs to have a discussion about it, and as now is the deadline, that discussion will have to be now.
I wouldn’t let him off the hook, his delayed bedtime is the least of his problems.

wtf is it wrong with your husband? I’d just sign it for him.

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It's his bedtime?

Is there something more behind you husbands behaviour?
Does he not like the school in question?

What’s the back story, @DisorganisedMummyTurningOrgnaised ? You say you have worked so hard towards this school acceptance - is it your drive and determination, or this school, or your son’s prospects that your husband resents?

Don't do this, that's ridiculous

He likes the school, but I’m the one who found it, who applied, who took our kid to the assessment day, whose done all the smooching because DS didn’t talk at all during the assessment and they were a little concerned, I sent all the video evidence, etc. He hates that I’m disorganised… but on this front I’ve been on the ball, this is the last hurdle and he’s blaming my disorganisation for not getting the form signed in a timely manor. Now he’s refusing to sign it. It doesn’t say that both parents MUST sign it, so maybe I’m freaking out for no reason. It’s a business after all, right? It’s not in their interest to turn DS down because only one parent signed the acceptance form??

If they query say he was away for work, but they won’t. The only signature they care about is the one on the form authorising them to take money from your account!

This is what I thought too. The T&Cs say you can add and remove people from the acceptance form with approval from the school, so I’ve emailed saying he’s away on business and then I’ll get him to sign it tomorrow when he’s calmed down.

I can't believe your husband would fuck around with his own childs schooling just to score points with the mother. What. A. Prick.

I wouldn't want to be married to a man who would potentially jeopardise his child's school place just because he's stubborn. He sounds awful.

Do you think he's actually reluctant to pay for private education/has reservations about that school? Or knows something about his job security or similar right now? It's a big commitment for most.

Or is it some kind of weird power game? If so, if you sign the form whats the level of commitment?

(Ps I assume you meant schmoozing not smooching!)

I don't want to worry you but private school places do often fill up before the final acceptance deadline. Have you paid the acceptance deposit?

Just submit the form with your signature on and pay the acceptance deposit. If they need his signature too they'll get back to you asking for it, but at least you'll have secured the place (if there's still a place left).

Why would he want to on purpose sabotage the effort you and your child have put in. Sounds nasty. Is his signature required?

Thanks @Mumoftwo1312 , this school starts at nursery and goes all the way up, so I’m enrollling him in nursery for the sole purpose of beating that crowd at reception age. They also only gave a week to accept, so I don’t think they’ve sent more acceptance letters than places available (I hope not). I did also email the head of admissions yesterday on a separate matter and she responded this morning just saying she looked forward to receiving my documentation, so I think she would have said to move quickly if the place was at risk.

@Wishitsnows ive scoured the T&Cs and I think all it says is that the people who sign the acceptance letter are liable to pay, and you can add or remove people. I’m the breadwinner anyways, so I’m fine with that. If I loose my job, no one can pay!

Don’t be so silly. What’s ridiculous is his tantrum and DC missing out on school because of it! Get a back bone.

@Mummame2222 forging a signature is getting a back bone? It's also potentially fraud and not likely to help OP much.

Forging is ridiculous.

Just sign it yourself OP

Just send it in. If they need both parents to sign he can do it later.

Sign it then leave him. What a cunt.

😂😂

Thanks all, I think he realised he was being unreasonable. I came down this morning and he’d signed it! Better late than never.

Just saw your latest comment but I'd come on to say Just bloody sign it, because you'll be divorcing this nasty prat before too long.
He thinks he's your boss and is trying to school you.
As a wise woman once said; "Fuck that shit."

Whatever you do don't thank him for signing it.
Something tells me he'll be expecting praise.
Sounds to me like he was trying to exert a bit of control.
Is he resentful of the fact you are the breadwinner?