Husband not signing private school acceptance letter

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Im freaking out. I’ve worked so hard to get my son into a private school. Last week we got an acceptance letter, but I didn’t see that I needed to return the form by tomorrow midday. My husband is super stubborn and is saying that he won’t sign it as it’s his bed time and tomorrow morning he’ll be out the door first thing, not returning till late in the evening. Will the school still accept my son if only I sign it? What am I going to do?! I don’t want him to loose his place.

I see that he's signed but, I don't see why both parents need to sign anyway? I've signed all my children's school stuff - state and private. Never heard anything back.

You are an adult with parental rights for your son - your sign is enough.

Is it because he wants to read the terms and conditions first? Is he a lawyer? Sometimes the small print says things like “5% fee increase every year”, maybe he wants to check those details? Or see what is not included in the annual fee eg. school trips, lunches etc, to work out how much extra those are going to cost. He sounds sensible.

You’re suggesting the OP wasn’t capable of addressing those details, or that her husband wouldn’t trust her to do so, @Mayflower282?

Pretty sure I accepted our place via email initially! I would sign and return, let the school query if there is an issue. Most private schools are most bothered about fee payments and the deposit for your place being paid. Have you paid the deposit? Usually around £1,000.

I'd leave my DH for this. He's acting like a complete prick.

Wow, is there an assessment day to get a kid into a private school at nursery age? Jeez. Knowing my toddler, he would choose that day to hide behind the curtain or do something especially weird.

Also- I couldn't tolerate a man like that. All power games and disrespect.

You’re the breadwinner…hmmmm,I think there may be some passive aggressive power plays going on ! Is your husband feeling steamrolled about private school?

I know!! But apparently, its normal for these schools?! When I went for the open day I said "You're not one of those ridiculous schools that needs an assessment to get into at this age, right?" and the deputy said "Well... yes." Thats when I realised this is probably normal. I grew up in poverty, as did DH so this is all new to me!

Maybe he's jealous because you've "done all the smooching"

When you first posted I thought you we talking about 11+

sad you’re actually referring to nursery, talking about pressure !

Really hope it wasn’t a proper assessment !

When I went for the open day I said "You're not one of those ridiculous schools that needs an assessment to get into at this age, right?" and the deputy said "Well... yes."

Top schmoozing op haha!

Had you not looked at the website?