Fall out over kids at wedding

[Cluelessfirstimer]

Fqll OUT OBVIOUSLY. Cant change title....
This is all so ridiculous and maybe I need a bit of a slap/sense check (hence why I'm here ...!)

So I'm supposed to be a brides maid at my good friend's wedding in June. Have just had the invite a few days ago (save the date sent last year) and it says no children.

While I wasn't happy about this I was on the fence about going. Messaged my friend to check details and she said " well, no children except my two.."

Now i GET she can't very well fuck her kids off out of her wedding but I was pretty annoyed. They are similar age to my DS.

I messaged and said I might not be able to make it. It's abroad needs a full week or at least 4 days away from DS who is nearly two. I won't enjoy myself because I have never spent a single night away from him and don't really want to either...

My mum would probably have DS but that's not the point.

I've relayed this to her today and she's gone ape shit. Told me I'm ridiculous and it's only a few nights.

I feel bad but I don't want to spend that long away from DS. Personal choice.

Am I being ridiculous...?!
Shes not talking to me now (so high school. We are in our 30s for god sake)
How do I salvage our friendship.
Do I just go? I really don't want to without DS. Don't really want to lose a friend either.

I'm getting a wine....

Just to clarify I totally get her kids being there.
I dont however get her going mental at me for then saying I don't think I can come without mine

I agree. I'm actually very pro child-free weddings, but it has to be on tbr understanding that some people may decline as a result. Her reaction is awful.

Of course YANBridiculous.

I too am pro child free weddings, but that is a wedding in the same place that you live.
I can't believe she hasn't mentioned this rather crucial fact earlier on.

I do think that people should choose to do what they want to do for their wedding but you have to be pretty dim to realise that the more difficult you make it to attend, then the less likely it is people will be able to attend.

That's shocking of your friend not to tell.ypu it was kids free at the start. I don't blame you not going.

Sorry didn't realise it was an old thread. Anyway hope everything was OK