I want to keep dd off school tomorrow dp disagrees

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Around lunchtime today dd (7) suddenly got a fever , felt nauseous (didn’t vomit), shivery and fell asleep for 3 hours. When she woke up she still had a fever and said nothing hurt but she felt ‘funny’. Didn’t want any dinner at all.

At bedtime she managed some toast and water, fever had gone (and the paracetamol had worn off so it wasn’t just being masked). Dp said ‘that’s good at least she will be fine for school!’ I said that i would be keeping her off tomorrow as something clearly wasn’t right and he disagrees and keeps saying it won’t be accepted as she’s fine now ? I said at least let’s see how she is overnight ? He said no she’s fine it was just a transient thing but I want to keep an eye on her just in case. The school don’t send kids home unless they have a fever over 38 and today dd was 38.4 but then later on still burning up and shivering but 37.9 so I don’t feel reassured she would be sent home

I'd see how she is in the morning and decide then whether she is well enough

If she's ok in the am I'd send her in.....if not then I wouldn't.

Yep, I'd see in the morning. I wouldn't definitely be keeping her home based on what you've said, but I also think it's a bit presumptious to assume that she's definitely fine.

See how she is in morning but in our house DS would be told he's off to school tomorrow after something like that

She just seemed so unwell so suddenly I want to at least see how she is overnight I think. I was worried maybe it was a UTI ? She hasn’t complained of anything hurting but had no other symptoms and I know when I’ve had them I feel shivery

She's clearly got something going on.

I'd see how she is in the morning but have a low threshold for keeping her off.

I'd keep her off.

I wouldn't make a decision either way tonight. She might be completely fine tomorrow morning.

It's weird that your husband said no to your suggestion of seeing how she is tomorrow - I mean, in practice that is obviously what is going to happen.

Make a decision in the morning. It’s ridiculous for either of you to be saying with certainty whether she will or won’t be able to go in tomorrow. If she is fine in herself with no more symptoms in the morning she should go in, if she is unwell again in the night she should stay home. It’s not a decision for now because neither of you know how she will be come morning.

Surely it entirely depends how she is in the morning?

Yes you’re right I think I just panicked a bit as it came on quick and there wasn’t anything obvious as a cause then it went after a few hours so I was puzzled and i think that triggered off anxiety

If she’s asleep when you get up tomorrow, then don’t wake her for school and let her sleep it off. If she’s awake, then see how she is and decide then. I am a right stickler for school (ask my kids!) but she’s only 7 so no big deal to stay home if she isn’t 100%

that’s a good idea as without fail she’s an early riser always awake 630-645 and full of energy so if she’s not then I’ll know she’s not 100%

All the schools and nurseries where I live have a 24 hour (or greater) rule. Any fever or vomiting within 24 hrs means they can't attend school.

I’d definitely keep her off

I wouldn’t keep her off unless she is poorly tomorrow. The Appleton’s you describe could just be from not drinking enough water, being up late the night before, eating something a bit out of date - it could even be an early sign of puberty.

I wouldn't keep mine off if the fever had gone in the morning. Tonight will be a good measure, as they are much more likely to spike a fever in the night than the morning. Usually they pick up in the morning/afternoon and go downhill early evening. So it was a hopeful sign that she was well at bedtime. When I've been unsure I've done as a pp said and not woken them, let them wake up naturally, and if they are then fine I take them in a little late instead of whole day off.

Why are you listening to him, if you want to keep her home, keep her home, you're the one who will be looking after her. X

See how she is tomorrow. If her temp is still fine and she’s up normally then send her in. If she’s still needing a lot of sleep I wouldn’t.

She's only had toast and water, not a proper dinner. I'd see how she is in the morning as definitely might have something.

And obviously see if she's sleepy or unwell seeming still.

Decide in the morning and tell teacher to keep close eye on DC if going to school tomorrow

I agree to see how she is in the morning and let her sleep if it happens.

It occurs to me that it's a lot easier when you've got a child that's normally an early riser - still asleep when they never normally would sleep in is a good call for, stay home and get over whatever's caused it. I remember that was often the case when I was a child - when I struggled out of bed later than usual and my mother would take one look at me and say, go back to bed! (with me it was usually bronchitis after I'd had measles and chickenpox)

Much harder if you've got a child that always wants to sleep in when you've got to assume it's their default behaviour and judge fitness for school on other cues.

Yeah bed rest and lots of sleep
And no mobile phones plenty of fibre so that's light stuff first and then give it a few hours , chicken soup is brilliant if you are feeling rough at that age and toast and start slowly and try and encourage yourself and her to get some fresh air and exercise when it's safe to walk around.

It's most likely
This awful sore
Throat/ cold thing that's doing the rounds at the moment there's this also nasty vomititng bug that was around in 2023 .

I had my flu jab this year so maybe it's that version or a stronger variant strain of
It. Or a stronger version of a diahorrea vomiting bug normally that's around 38-39 degrees but yes also ring NHS 111 and get their view if there is a rash and it doesn't disappear it's probably early symptoms of meningitis or a infection. If it's lingering than 3-4 days it's more urgent to visit a consultant at the nearest hospital department for kids .

I would 100% keep her off. Even if she's 'fine' tomorrow, her body might need time to recover.