Calling all parents with 3 children for advice!
A little of bit of background story.
We have two lovely children (3 & 1 yo). I always wanted many children (in my mind 4 kids was the ideal number) but we had agreed with my DH that 3 might be easier both time-wise and financially. I was very happy with this decision. Fast forward now that we have two children, my DH changed his mind and he is super negative on having another one.
His view:
- We won’t have (or have limited) quality time with each child
- It will be much harder and tiring
- It will be much more expensive hence our quality of life will decrease (i.e. less holidays, less extracurricular activities for the kids etc.)
- We will be constantly chasing our tail; pretty much going each kid to different clubs, playdates etc and have no time to ourselves
- The world is built for families with two kids (i.e. family tickets are 2 adults & 2 children, family hotel rooms are for 2 adults & 2 children etc)
- We have two healthy kids - if we are on the fence on having another one why should we risk it? What if there are any health issues?
I get his points, he is not completely unreasonable but…
What’s your honest experience of having 3 kids? I am know that not many parents, if any, will say they regret having a 3rd one as they love the 3rd DC but are those points true? Should I reconsider having a 3rd one?
Note that we are both of us working full time and we want to keep it this way.