So I split with my ex partner nearly 2 years ago due to emotionally abusive behaviour (always accusing me of being a liar in certain situations and making me feel bad for working full time) etc etc etc. it was a bitter end and didn’t go down well with him as you can imagine and I have had to put up with him attempting to be controlling via text messages with the child arrangements etc. I have allowed it and let him basically walk all over me as he has been paying half the mortgage (doesn’t want to lose his half or something?) I pay all other bills and he gives me no money for anything else. Also just to note he has threatened me many times with court action hence I have complied.
After a lot of disagreeing and back and forth, it was agreed he would see our daughter on a Wednesday and every other weekend so she has regular contact. My daughter is 3 so I didn’t want too much back and forth as it upsets her when she’s home with me. However, he works shift work on a 3 shift pattern and on one of the shifts my daughter is expected to stay with his mum to accommodate for him to see her for 3 hours the following morning. He then wants her on a Friday afternoon even when not his weekend? This whole thing upsets my daughter and creates a lot of issues for me when she’s home especially at the weekends. With regards to pick up and drop offs, he expects me to drop my daughter to him on a Friday during my working hours for him and he’ll drop her home. I have done this to comply.
now there is so much to this story I could go on but I have also had a dispute with my neighbour over my daughter having tantrums which have since subsided quite a lot but when she’s heard me shout or my daughter crying for more than a few minutes, she’s banging on the door. Now the other day she text my ex without me knowing and he’s been siding with her saying he’s concerned about me and will not disclose who said neighbour is who contacted him although I know full well. Since this incident, I feel sick of people pushing me around and now I am refusing to do any picking up or dropping off as if he wants to see his daughter, he should come and pick her up and drop her home. Am I wrong? I feel fed up of people trying to bring me down. The neighbour threatened me thinking I couldn’t see it on a Facebook group with the CSA. I have been in bits and the fact he is siding with her without knowing the facts but constantly accuses me of being a liar but wants to trust someone who he doesn’t even know past their name and to say hi to them in the street.
am I wrong? Should I be doing more? I do all of the pick up and drop offs in the week and appointments and running around after my daughter. I buy all her shoes and clothes and pay all the bills including childcare and work a full time job. Am I the one in the wrong??