Partner saying I'm less of a women

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Today my partner said something that broke me a little 💔 I'm trying not to let him get to me ..

He said I was unavailable emotionally for him after I gave birth to my daughter...I said I needed time to heal after giving birth it was hard... this is what he said quote... other women were able to to do it, you're less of a women that's why you struggled after birth.

I know its not tru but part of me thought maybe I wasn't good at this mother thing to start off with but I'm doing my best.

I'm afraid I would leave over that comment.

You are epic. You can do this and he is a pillock.

Other men support their partners through growing a new person and going through huge pain to give birth to them and then do everything that comes afterwards. Since he hasn't done that he is Less Of A Man..

This is one of most vile things I've ever read on here. Did you have to have an emergency c section, is that the reasoning behind the 'not a real
woman' bullshit? If so, it makes you even more of a warrior! You carried, made and birthed a child. His child. He should be worshipping the ground you walk on right now instead of whipping it out from under your feet.

This is NOT about you. It's about his complete oblivious selfishness. Have a chat with your health visitor, explain what's happened and how you're feeling and see what advice they can give. Maybe start thinking about making plans to move back home. Think about talking to a family lawyer to find out your rights when you're strong enough. You poor thing, have a massive virtual cuddle 💐💐

Yes it was an emergency c section... shortly after I had a tumour removed from my brain.. it's been hard but I'm a warrior and I've come this far. Thank you for empowering me.

Can the house be sold?

So, brain tumour, pregnancy and birth and you were insufficiently available and other mothers would have done better.

I’d release him to go and try, myself.

Honestmy what a prince.

Yes I can sell the house! After this post you've empowered me to get a lawyer!

Congratulations on your baby.

Your husband is a horrible person. You don’t have to leave him right this second, these things can take time. But start right now recognising that he’s a horrible person and that the relationship is going to end within the next year or two. Do not question or doubt yourself. Just see him for who he is and allow yourself to fall out of love with him so he can’t upset you anymore. Start quietly planning what a life without him will look like. Make sure you have money of your own.

It isn’t your fault that he’s a horrible person. He pretended to be nice until you were vulnerable and then he started being cruel. None of that is your fault. You could not have known he would be like this and you aren’t responsible for his shitty choices.

I do not know any men who would say those things to the mother of their child. His behaviour is not normal.

Well his comment was clearly abusive but I’d hope my question would prompt some self reflection on the part of the op about other behaviours he might have which are abusive.

If you're sure he won't react with violence, I would print out some of these comments and hand them to him. I find his behaviour absolutely appalling. Is he mentally challenged in some way?

He will definitely react in violence without question unfortunately. I really wish I could

Is he talking about sex?

I'd put money on it.