My dd needs glasses

[Hellomummy23]

I did a post on here but received negative comments and didn't know how to edit it so I'll rephrase it

My little girl age 7 went for a routine eye test as I took my children all together for their first test. She's never had any problems with her eyes she reads great and has never complained.

I was shocked for them to tell me she's a +2.00 in both eyes. She didn't want to wear glasses and immediately got upset which upset me as I don't like seeing my kids heartbroken yes I know it's only glasses and there are worse things going on in the world but this is just her feelings and obvs in a ideal world I would rather this may be happening.

I just wanted advice for any other children who have kids with the same strength how often they wear their glasses.
I didn't even know if this was strong or a weak strength as I was quite shocked too and didn't ask any questions.

I've told my daughter that she has nothing to worry about and reassured her so I don't need any comments telling me that I should not give her negative energy as I haven't. I always get upset if my kids are upset they are my world

More of this madness? Surely you ask the optician when they need to be worn.

No, I did a bit of a pre-starting school MOT and it flagged it up. I can't remember her prescription then or now but will try and look it up later. She was originally referred to the optometrist at the hospital and treated for a slight squint which has now been cured.

Sorry Op for the reaction you have received here, mumsnet is getting really boring with the same judging, mean, preachy responses.
You are her mum, your feelings are completely valid, you are entitled to feel upset.
Change is really difficult for some
Kids, dont listen to anyone here telling you that you are overreacting. Some people see everything through an adults eyes instead of a childs view

@Hellomummy23

I understand she is upset but your job as a parent is to empathise and problem solve with her - not mirror her distress. You are confirming to her it is something to be upset about.

Let her choose a pair that she likes. That's all you can do really.

I had them from a very young age and hated them but I did like being able to see and wouldn't have been without them. When she gets used to them and can see clearly she won't be making any fuss about wearing them.

I got contact lenses as soon as I was old enough!

My dd has worn glasses since she was 6, she is shortsighted with a prescription around -3.5. +2.00 is mild.

My dd wears hers all day every day. Amongst her glass I would say about a quarter wear glasses and honestly the children pay absolutely no attention to it other than to say 'ooh cool new glasses!'

I would advise checking with optician about how often to wear them.

My dd absolutely loved hers from the moment she put them on. Her words 'mum, I didn't realise other people could see like this!'

She is trialling contact lenses now but ultimately prefers her glasses for ease and comfort.

Don’t beat yourself up - I started wearing glasses at nine and my eyesight still got progressively worse. There’s no guarantee you caused further damage - just that it was the right thing in the end to get glasses.

I saw the previous thread and can well understand the negative responses. No one likes to see their children unhappy but you acted as if you’d received traumatic news that was going to ruin your daughter’s life. Maybe try and think about parents who receive a lot darker news regarding their own children to put things into perspective.

I work in optics and basically her prescription is fairly mild for long sightedness so in a basic way of saying, she can see far away but needs correction for seeing things close to her. It's not a huge prescription but glasses will definitely improve her vision.

Clearly it's up to your optician to advise you how often she needs to wear the glasses, not strangers on the internet.
Separately though, the fact you got upset when your daughter did, means you validate her view that wearing glasses is something bad. Maybe think of this as a teaching moment and show her how to share empathy with the child in the class who wears them.

Maybe she will feel better about her glasses when she can see more clearly when reading, writing and doing other close work. Long sight means she has better distance sight but needs the glasses to help focus her near sight. Think of them as mini magnifying glasses.