Please tell me 4 children is too many?!

[3boysandadog23]

I recently got pregnant unexpectedly with my 4th, long story short, we decided to terminate the pregnancy, mainly due to my husband thinking 4 would be too much for us and also at the time it was thought that my sister’s husband had terminal cancer and I would have to be giving her a lot of support with her 4 young children.

like im sure a lot of people do, I'm now regretting terminating the pregnancy… but 4 is a lot of children isn’t it? And I worry about its effect on my 3 already (6,5 and 2), who I already feel I can’t give all the attention they deserve. Basically, I’m after people telling me that sticking to 3 is the better idea….

I have two who do a lot of clubs and all sorts and always have. We often need a parent per child. Even with lift shares. Mentally in top of work the needs of 2 are all I can cope with. I know plenty with 3 who love it but logistics etc are a nightmare but at least you can use a normal car etc
I would struggle with 3 and I'm one one 3... 4 is a big leap. You made the right decision for you

Be kind to yourself, you terminated for a reason. For a lot of people (me included) you will always wonder about another, even if you had 4,5,6 whatever!
And your husband isn’t keen. That’s a big thing there as it’s both of you.
Take your time to process as a lot has happened.

@bakerylady please do check back in what you don't have a toddler & a tiny but do have 4 kids who grow like weeds, eat you out of house an home, bicker & fight & trash the house. When you can only drive a big suv and everything you do together costs you fortune.
When you have 4 parents eves at the same time & 4 clubs in opposite directions on a school night: or they can't do any.
I'm assuming you must be wealthy / not work as childcare costs are crippling.
What if one has any additional needs or is neuro diverse & adds to the load or they are emotionally v needy etc ?
I have a mate with 8 and know another fantastic parent with 9 but it's seriously not for all.