Don’t want MILs dog around baby

[Starry4321]

We had a baby 5 months ago. MIL has a dog which is not trained. It’s 2 years old now and a fairly small size (slightly bigger than jack Russel). When it came over when I was pregnant it jumped on my stomach when I was sitting on the sofa and MIL had no way of controlling it. It likes to run on the furniture and even jumped onto the kitchen table when we were eating breakfast. I don’t think the dog is aggressive maybe just a bit spoiled. Anyway it’s not met our baby yet. MIL keeps saying how we will need to get them to meet. I find it exhausting being in the house with the dog as she’s shouting at it all the time and it ignores her. Plus I’m not convinced she has it under control.

Am I wrong that I would prefer her not to bring the dog over now we have a baby?

YANBU I would be very weary of any dogs around my children, especially untrained dogs!

Forget the baby being the reason - no one would be bringing a dog to my house that was going to run amok and climb all over furniture and up onto the dining table!!
Stand your ground and refuse to allow the dog.

No you’re definitely not in the wrong for wanting to keep your baby and the dog separate.
If the dog isn’t well trained and jumping around the place then it might accidentally jump close to or on the baby and that’s a risk I wouldn’t take. Also the stress of making sure the dog stays down would just be too much.

I’d also be furious if any of my friends or family allowed their dog to jump on my table. I have my own dog, also just bigger than a Jack Russell and I haven’t allowed her to be around any of my friends or families babies. I trust her completely, she’s great with my own baby but I wouldn’t take any chances.

She doesn’t need to bring the dog to your house. It’s quite rude to bring her dog along on a visit.

you have to deal with her dog when you visit her home. If the dog isn’t well-trained, I would avoid visiting at her house.

I have a dog and never let it near my baby. He’s the nicest sweetest dog in the world but ultimately it’s an animal with instincts/reactions. He’s very well trained yet still I always had the belief that the unexpected moves of kids probably don’t mix well with dogs. My toddler is now 2, she’s lived all her life being told to respect the dog. But still I can find her poking him in the nose, fortunately he’s chill. We barely leave them unattended together but now she’s a bit older I don’t worry so much.
but ultimately any dog you can’t control is a shit dog and exhausting

You are totally within your rights, but to save pacify the situation, would she accept a middle ground eg bring the dog but it stays on a lead?

Not a chance, I have a family member wirh 2 small untrained dogs. They are not allowed in my house.

If it is behaving like this in your house it should be on a lead so she can control it

We have always had a total ban on dogs in our house so when the DC were small it was not an extra issue. It offended one or two people but they probably got over it.

OP there is no way I would even consider having a badly behaved dog anywhere near my baby wherever I was, my home, their home, outdoors. Just no, not a chance.

You could almost be describing my dog. He's more trained and never hears shouting but he is rubbish at personal space. No chance I'd allow him near your baby. You don't need to have him in your house at all and if you're visiting them, the protection of the baby should be paramount.

Yanbu. Even if it’s friendly but lively your baby could be hurt accidentally. It would need to be out the room or on a lead for me.

I have dogs so am far from a dog hater btw.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers 😳

The dog shouldn't be anywhere near the baby.

Babies and dogs don’t need to “meet”. And she’s batshit to think she should bring the dog to your house!

Good one @Starry4321 , you’ve combined the top two pet hates on Mumsnet, MILs and dogs! BINGO. 🎉

yanbu no way

but even before a baby entered the equation I wouldn’t allow someone else’s untrained dog in the house! Well trained and placid creatures only

There is no question here OP The dog would be a potential danger to your child. This cannot happen.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago IL's dog ignored its owners constantly jumped up on me and on furniture no matter what they said to it so I wouldn't go round with the baby unless the dog was contained/kept in a room whilst we were there. We've not been invited over since. They were adamant the dog was harmless/thought I was over reacting but a year later the dog bit one of its owners who then had to go to hospital for quite a few stitches. Luckily it bit an adult not one of the young children who were there at the time. It got re-homed after that. Its really not worth the risk.

They don’t need to meet.

No it is not welcome in your house.

If you go to hers, it can go in another room whilst you are there.

But you take a chance with your own baby? Baffling.

Give her the business details of a local dog behaviourist and tell her the dog will only be allowed in your house when he’s under control.
Forget group setting an adult dog needs 121 work ie your MiL needs to be trained how to manage her dog.

YABNU. I have a dog myself and even though it is very well trained I would never take offence at someone requesting I kept my dog away from their child, let alone their small baby- I tend to do this anyway unless the parent has said they’re happy otherwise. It’s a parent’s prerogative and should be respected.

nope, it's private school and immigrants. MIL's & Dogs trail way behind...

Yes I do because they are never left alone. My dog is very well trained, she’s not on the furniture and she doesn’t jump up at anyone. Plus I know my own dog but again animals can be temperamental so I don’t leave them alone.

It may be baffling to you but I definitely don’t take any chances with any of it 🙄

They are never left alone= So you have to guard your baby in case the dog takes a chunk out…..ok just checking x

🙄😂 I’m not even going to bother to give a proper reply to you baiter … enjoy your boring Monday!