Don’t want MILs dog around baby

[Starry4321]

We had a baby 5 months ago. MIL has a dog which is not trained. It’s 2 years old now and a fairly small size (slightly bigger than jack Russel). When it came over when I was pregnant it jumped on my stomach when I was sitting on the sofa and MIL had no way of controlling it. It likes to run on the furniture and even jumped onto the kitchen table when we were eating breakfast. I don’t think the dog is aggressive maybe just a bit spoiled. Anyway it’s not met our baby yet. MIL keeps saying how we will need to get them to meet. I find it exhausting being in the house with the dog as she’s shouting at it all the time and it ignores her. Plus I’m not convinced she has it under control.

Am I wrong that I would prefer her not to bring the dog over now we have a baby?

good grief nope! Sounds like the dog is MIL baby and she wants cousins to meet- crazy! I wouldn’t want the dog in my house baby or no baby if it jumps on the dining table! Shocking behaviour. And you can never predict a dog and a baby- it would be a flat no from me

I wouldn't want my baby around a dog like that either.

And I grew up with dogs, as did my DC.

Relief to read this thread - I am in a similar situation. Currently pregnant and dreading navigating the in-laws and their dog moving forward. Dog is not trained, has previously shown signs of aggression to me and my husband and no one wants to address it with training. This thread has definitely bolstered my confidence in setting up some clear boundaries moving forward - so thank you OP for getting the discussion going!

YANBU but prepare for the backlash.
my SIL had got a 4 year old rescue dog just before I had my first baby. He was an extremely nervous dog, understandably due to his background. But he becomes very uncomfortable when people get too close and we didn’t know if he had ever been around babies. My son was very poorly when he was born and 3 days after we came out of hospital (he had been on NICU) she turned up at my house to visit the baby. With the dog. She then continued to bring it everywhere and on my baby’s first Xmas we just asked if the dog could go in another room just while we ate, so that the baby could go on the floor on his playmat and I could eat my Xmas dinner without having to hold him (he was a very clingy bf baby but the playmat kept him happy). She was absolutely livid. Didn’t speak to us the whole of Xmas and our relationship is still bad 7 years later. The way people treat their dogs is crazy to me.

Be firm!

I would not want my tasty morsel of a baby around ANY dog ever...

It’s your house your rules - I wouldn’t allow any dog even a trained one in the house because we don’t have dogs and it’s just my preference. My mum has a dog who is 2 my son is 2 and it’s the same situation when we pop over the dog is crazy runs riot she starts shouting and it’s really stressful so I understand the environment that’s being created. My mums not ever suggested bringing her wee dog too mine but if she did I’d just say can you leave the dog at home because surely she will only be over for a couple of hours max anyway so I don’t see any issue. I’d just try to nip it in the bud now and not even use the baby as the reason just you don’t want any dogs in the house.

Agreed. So disrespectful to impose these boisterous beasts on other people! They should keep it to their own homes.