Really how different was your second child?

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Just wanted to start a lighthearted debate! You always hear the second child is the wild child, I’ve had people tell me from relatives to medical professionals not to be lulled into a false sense of security with DC1, very placid baby that rarely cries or causes ouch of a fuss about anything really (but does have their moments of course)! I will be having a second regardless if natures intends it, but would like to hear just how different those second babies really were!!

*disclaimer fully understand this is a brand new little individual with there own personality, likes and dislikes! We are humans not robots 🤖 ( I hope!)

Dd says to him "I stropped so you didn't have to.

Night and day. I couldn't have made 2 more different children. I scoffed at people who said siblings might not get on, I assumed parents had a much bigger impact on personality and relationships and sibling rivalry was down to bad parenting....let's just say I'm either a shit parent or I'm having to eat humble pie now!

Well you did ask! First DS, was such an absolute joy, calm, relaxed, happy contented little soul. We thought we were just brilliant at parenting 😂 when he was a year old, we were delighted for me to be pregnant with DS2, what a different baby, he did nothing but scream for 7mths, and the reason why a 3rd was totally off the cards!

Our two are in their early twenties now, still totally opposite in personality, DS1 still very kind, chilled DS2 much more driven and determined, still noisy, non stop chatterbox but so loving. Wouldn’t change either of them for the world. Our two sons are best friends as well as brothers. Good luck OP

My second is the wild child!!!

He gets it from having an older sibling to be wild with!

DS1 was obviously on his own until he was 3.5 years old so he was very calm, quiet and placid, whereas DS2 always has been a total fire cracker!

They have very similar personalities now (aged 6 and 9) as they’re constantly being crazy together, but when it comes to the first 3-4 years of life DS2 was an absolute whirlwind compared to how DS1 had been during that period.

The opposite. My second was a dream from day one. I was more confident and easy going second time round which I think helped a lot. He was just very calm and easy natured, cooperative, never tantrummed etc. But he had a dream life lol, picked up, fed, slept with etc whereas I tried to keep all the rules and schedules with dc1, I was too tired and too unbothered second time and it stood to him! Still the same now at 9. Very independent, self sufficient etc.