SIL literally lives round the corner from us. We see MILs car there every other evening and every weekend. 3 year old DS starting to realise she’s there all the time. We see her every fortnight for about 10 minutes after she’s left SILs. Sad thing is my son absolutely adores her and calls her his best friend. Definitely a lot of favouritism going on and it’s making me resent her and my SIL and her kids. Childish on my part but it sucks. It especially sucked when we used to see her driving past in the early days when we were struggling (and yes we had made it known we were struggling). She even said before any of us had kids that ours would be closer to my mother, like she’d already decided she wasnt going to be that involved. We brought it up once, and I was told “it’s a mother daughter thing” and has since said “all she ever wanted was a daughter”… poor DH got shoved out when SIL was born. Is it only me that thinks that is just wrong and unfair. Why should she automatically be closer to her daughters kids than her sons. Her son is her child too. My own mother isn’t involved either. I can’t imagine ever only bothering with my daughters kids and not my sons. Or not bothering at all in my own mothers case (who lives 5 mins away and I used to think we were close but then she met her new boyfriend when DS was born then that was that). My sons really only got me and DH and I guess I need to focus on us.