My Dd (7) hates to stay away from home, on the run up to the visits with dad and new gf she gets really tearful and anxious. She is waiting to be assessed for asd/adhd and really struggles regulating her emotions. She went to visit them yesterday with the plan being she would stay, and as always while they were out in the evening she becomes inconsolable and wants to return home. As they live some distance away her things were left at their house, including (most importantly) her bunny that she’s had since she was newborn. She takes it everywhere and she relies on it if she’s anxious or upset, like a comfort blanket. He won’t be seeing her for 2 weeks but refuses to let her have it back even though he will be local next week, as he believes there needs to be consequences to her not wanting to stay with him. In his words ‘she needs a kick up the arse’. It just feels really cruel when he knows she will say ‘where’s bunny’ if she gets upset, which often happens because of what we believe is her additional needs. He also has no understanding that she may not be neurotypical, so she thinks or acts a little differently. I don’t know how to handle this at all. He was very emotionally abusive when we were together, and I feel like he’s starting to be like that with her. I’m also annoyed that he kept saying ‘we decided’ regarding his gf. She is not my daughters parent, so shouldn’t be getting involved in parenting decisions imo. Any advice welcomed x