Mum trying to teach LO to call me by my name

[HiMyNamesLee]

Am I being hormonal or is it odd that my mum is teaching my LO to call me by my first name instead of “mum”? She’s not doing this to DP, when with my LO she refers to him as “dad”. Weird or should I just get over it?

She is weird and I would stamp that out. You are the mum. Next thing you know she'll be getting your LO to call her mum instead.

Weird

Super weird. Tell her to stop!

How is she doing it?

Weeirirrrdddooooo

Really not ok. Have you spoken to her about it, how did she justify it?

WEIRD.
I didn't mind when my own DS did it to me (odd phase in toddlerhood) but no one had specifically taught him to.

That’s weird. Have you asked her why?

What does your child call your mum? Maybe she could be called by her first name and see if she likes it.

I would be quite fucking angry.
Start calling your mother by her name and if she questions it point out how weird she is being doing the same to you.

You are mummy, she is Nanny.

@Dotcheck she will pick LO up and say where’s “my first name” instead of where’s mummy. She basically always refers to me by my first name when speaking to LO

It’s weird what she’s doing, but might be habit since she’s always called you by your name.

have you spoken to her about it? If not, then call her out on it and keep correcting her when she does it.

If she is doing it on purpose then start doing the same to her, call her by her first name when addressing her, instead of “where’s nan?” Etc, replace nan with her first name. Maybe then she’ll stop (if she was doing it deliberately)

Generally my mum calls me by my name. I think it would feel weird for my mum to call be mum/mummy.

It never occurred to me that she was teaching my DS and DD to call me by my name. Context matters. They know I call my mum - mum or grandma I think your child will be able to work out that they call their mum - mum, but other people will use your name.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Weird. Especially when she refers to your DP as “dad”. Have you asked her why she’s doing it?

My mother always called us by our names when talking to our children about us. I never thought it was weird-she did it with all her grandchildren. I wish I could ask her why now- it was just something she did. She didn't do any sort of baby talk either-maybe that was the same sort of thing?

No
Get her told

@LakeTiticaca "No
Get her told"

Or, alternatively, have a polite conversation if the OP thinks it's a big deal.....

But in this case the GM is referring to the mum by her name, and the father as dad. So it isn’t just something she always does, she’s referring to the two parents differently.

Very odd, some kind of controlling weirdness going on for sure.

She says she think it’s cute and funny for LO to call me by my name instead of mum …

Will she think it’s cute and funny if your LO calls her by her first name? Fight fire with fire, or stop her seeing your LO until she stops trying to undermine you as her mum.

My 2 kids have called me by my first name since they were about 8 and 6 respectively. I still get people saying it's 'weird' and they should call me 'Mum' or something. Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks is what I say.

Yeah I'd definitely do this if you're not already.

Start calling her by her name and not Mum and see how she feels. If she complains, say 'I thought it was cute?'

Speaking of 'mum', why do so many stories in the news now use 'mum' and not 'mother'. Likewise 'nan' instead of 'grandmother'?