Nanny hit baby but no proof

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Hi everyone. Awful topic. My 2 and a half year old has claimed that her nanny hit her while I was away. I know she has become scared of her recently (she only started with us 3 weeks ago) and I trust my little girl. She doesn't make stuff up, and I know my guy. Equally I don't want and can't say anything along these accusing ljnes as we don't have cameras. What do I do.

*know my gut (typo)

I would terminate my contract with her. You don't have to make any accusations just be vague and say 'it's not working out' and pay her her notice.
Even if DD was lying, if you have noticed a change in her behaviour that would be enough for me.

Thank you. This is how I feel

Sack her. Surely there's a probation period?

Yes agree with the poster above. Terminate her contract.

I’ve never had nannies so no idea about contracts and so on, but I’d get rid of her. I’d probably say my daughter has not been happy, and you don’t think the relationship os working out. You don’t need to accuse her of anything. IF she has hit the child, then she’ll know what you’re on about. If she’s done nothing she’ll probably be a bit perplexed. You may get a sense of which one it is, when you tell her. But regardless I think I’d not want a person looking after my kid who scared my kid, for whatever reason.

There isn't much you can do other than terminate her employment effective immediately and look for a new nanny.

This

Cool guys thanks. I just feel she did it. And no probation, it's France and no contract in our instance (even though she's a top professional nanny at 4k a month - yup - unreal)

All so on point and I'm grateful thanks all

So if there’s no contract and no issue in just letting her go what’s the point of this post? Looking to stir up a froth?

😹 love Mumsnet for these aggressive type messages. No, I was hoping for some motherly kind advice.

Follow whatever French law is for terminating an employee during early stage of employment.

In UK a "written statement" has to be provided within first two months, so if you were in the UK it could be a similar situation that the paperwork was not yet finalised. A contract still exists, but terminating it can be quick. French law may or may not be similar.

You know your child, trust your gut.

Why do you need “motherly kind advice”? This shouldn’t require any thought at all.

You find yourself a different nanny immediately. The fact that your child is afraid of her is sufficient alone

Seems some posters don't understand Mumsnet, if someone posts and you know an answer or can provide support then you post the answer or provide the support, not berate the poster for posting!

I have reported this

Because it’s an unpleasant situation to be in and easy to doubt yourself so you seek a little reassurance before acting?

Why on earth?

Mumsnet is bonkers at times.

Really not helpful.

We had something similar and I messaged the nanny that evening telling her not to come back.

Wow. Ok this is now become really weird over and out 🤟🏻

My DD told me that her childminder left her in the baby cot.

My blood ran cold, when I asked what baby cot she told me hers upstairs 🤣 yup a pack of lies.

You will never know the truth but if you're not happy and your DD isn't happy then it's fine to terminate the contract.

Id report her to the police and have her bags packed in the morning