Going from 2 - 3 children, Yes or No

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I'm a regular mn who knows too many people in real life to post under my real mumsnet name and want this to remain a secret if i do decided to go for number 3.

but i'm seriously thinking about having a 3rd baby, but lots puts me off, like money, needing new car, bigger house, work, nursery.

have just got on a nice even keel now dc2 is nearly 3 but the cluckiness is still there

so tell me why 3 is the magic number.

3 isn't the magic number......

5 is

altho my 3rd was the easiest to slot into the family, as I had done it all before, as had DH, and the girls had each other and so they had got over the whole 'share mummy' thing and jealousy wasn;t even a fear!!!

2 is a little bit..... ordinary. 4 means forking out on a people carrier/dreaded 4x4.... 3 is the magic number! You can manage with a 3 bedroom house if you cant afford anything bigger (most 3 bed houses have two double bedrooms, so you can stick two of the same gender in together). I have a theory that the move from 2 to 3 is probably the most significant because the kids outnumber the parents.

ab - never thought of the children outnumbering the parents angle

thanks for those keep them coming

Do it, do it, do it!

3 is the magic number

As for the reasons against ...they won't exist when you have gorgeous dc3 in your arms

Agree I thought 2 a bit too "neat".

But it still took us 6.5 years (and a small accident) to get from 2 to 3, and 19 months later it is fab. I was worried about how we would all adapt to having a baby in the house again, but the DDs adore their little brother, and he has changed the family dynamics in the best possible way.

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I had my 3rd as I didn't want to be 'neat'. But 3 certainly is waaaaay more messy!!

3 is great - we have a little ford fiesta and it's doable with a 7,4 and 9 month old

am also lurking with interest, although maybe a tad late as dc3 due in july

I actually always wanted 4 but will just take it one dc at a time!

We are having DC3 in May who will be our DS1. I'm really looking forward to having three tbh but not sure why when two seems more than enough right now .

Just wanted to say that my Midwife has three girls and she said three is fab - one of the good things (her girls are around young teen age now) is that when one has a party, sleepover etc she doesn't feel as if the other is left out as they have their other sister for company. Also she said they seem to enjoy being a threesome because bizarrely, they get more space to themselves - one can always disappear off to their room while the other two are fighting or chatting and get some time to themselves.

I think 3 is lopsided, go for four and even it up

the only downside of three is that a 4th rounds it up nicely

3 is lovely.

3 is fittable in a normal size car

3 is fittable in a 3 bed house

3 is fab as you finally know what to expect, and makes you feel more 'complete' (well, for most anyway).

HOWEVER

3 means often 2 against 1

3 normally means 2 sharing, 1 alone/feeling superior for having their own room.

3 means always one arguing about why they should sit in the middle.....()

3 means 2 sit with mummy at the pictures, 1 with daddy, or vice versa

3 could mean 2 girls on mummys side and 1 boys on daddys, or again, vice versa......

SO

go for four

or be psycho insane sensible, and go for 5.....

4/5 always seem to entertain each other

more to look after you in your old age

more presents to receive on your birthdays

they individually need fewer toys/less crap because they are too busy playing to need it

I've just had my 3rd and am loving it!! He has fitted right in and the girls adore him. My wee family feels complete (although I always said I wanted 4!) and I am so much more relaxed this time round that I am enjoying his babyhood immensely. I was worried about going back to sleepless nights etc, but he has fitted in like a wee dream!

Go for it!

Hmm I'm thinking about a third. As I see it, I want a third to get it right this time round.

pscyhomum, just read dh your post - I thought it was great - he was not impressed.

my no3 is 5m and she's fitting in just fine. Tis a little less organised and a little more chaotic, but I like there being a lot of us.

cargirl.....LOL

more pressies indeed......

how material!!!!!

I am not like that at all, oh no, not in any way in need of at least one pressie per child

tinytot........

DH's never get it!

2 parents, 2 children , 2 nuclear, 2 perfect ! Alfiesbabe is right - kids outnumbering parents is significant. our family dynamic changed in a good way with the arrival of no 3 - go for it !!!!!!

I'm pg with my third now.
You can fit three into a normal car, and pretty much everything else seems to be falling into place with us, money isnt too much of an issue, and DC can share a room with one of the other two until we can afford a new house.

My DC2 has recently turned three as well, I think that;s definitely a time you start to think about it again, just as it all becomes easy