Sharing children on socials

[Orangepen13]

What’s your stance?
I didn’t want anything and relented slightly for some family and said they could do very occasional insta stories with her face, but these are becoming a little too frequent (IMO they shouldn’t be posting more than me!)

am I too strict?

I post my DD, but my profile is locked to friends. I'm happy with my decision.

In your situation i think you either need to be ok with posting or nothing at all, otherwise its a blurred line. Your definition of occassional could be different to theirs.and if i wasyourfamily member i would wonder what the difference is between 1 picture and lots of pictures.

I would find it confusing if you post pictures, but are saying others cant

My social media (outside of Mumsnet) makes no reference to whether I have children or not.

You mean other people posting pics of your kids? I don't think I've ever done that, maybe a couple prom pics. But I only use FB and have it on a private setting so only my small circle of friends/family can see it.

I have nothing on social media about my DC. They hit the roof when I posted a family picture on Facebook about 10 years ago and made me take it down. So I respect that.

They are 20 and 23 now and still don't post much.

I'm really strict on this - our daughter doesn't feature in any of our social media. She can decide when she's older what she wants to share with the world.

I've made no reference at all to my daughter in SM. Everyone who I'm close enough to to share the ins and out of my life with me are on WhatsApp chats where I share photos, news etc... Im very much of the mind that least shared soonest mended. It's not my life to share. When she is old enough to have a social media presence she will be starting from scratch which to me is as it should be. I would have wanted pictures of me as a baby or young child spread across the internet for others to potentially come across in the future.

Of course I meant I wouldn't have wanted photos of myself across the internet.

Other people definitely shouldn't post photos of your kids, unless they ask you first.

I don't have kids yet but I wouldn't want to share about them online reguarly, and I like what my SIL does is she only share on Insta stories so it's temporary.

No photos of DS on social media here either. My view is it's his choice when he is older.

Additionally I reasoned that if I shared lots of stuff now when he was a child that makes a mockery of all the conversations parents of teen have at some point about being careful with what you put on social media.

Mine are older I always ask them and if they say no I / the family respect that! I rarely post anything but if I do and its linked to them I have their full consent.

I have a one year old - I've posted her a couple of times on my Insta stories (locked private account and only 100 followers) and the photos disappear after 24 hours.

For any grid posts, if she happens to be in the photo of a group or something, I put a white heart covering her face, which seems like a decent compromise to me :)

I think its personal preferences. I share pictures of my dc, but i have my settings on private so only friends can see. I have widespread family so its a easy way to let them see what the kids are up to and watch them grow up. I also like that its building memories for us all to look back on.
I respect others and will always ask before i post anything including anyone else, especially thier children.
I allow my family to post pictures too, its not often they do, mainly for special occassions ect. aslong as im tagged in it so i can remove if i dont think its suitable.
Ive only ever removed twice, and that was eager family posting birth pictures before we had chance to tell those we wanted to tell personally, before sharing with wider friends.
As they get older, if they choose they dont like it, then it can all be deleted. Likewise, if people dont i share pictures, they can delete me.
I think it all depends on different peoples believes & wishes and whatever the parents want should be respected.

The child is not able to consent to this. Therefore, the parent's role is to protect the child until they are able to make an informed decision for themselves. Personally, I don't see the need for anyone to put anything personal on social media, so I certainlywouldn't want a child to be put in that position.

I've put pictures of my kids on Facebook but it's set to friends only, I'm only friends with people I genuinely know. I don't use instagram

They were already old enough to ask when sm started being a big thing. They have their own accounts

I post photos of mine on my Instagram account but it’s a private account and I regularly check and remove people I no longer class as friends. I don’t let other people post photos of them because I don’t know who their friends are. At some point soon I will probably stop sharing photos, I like the memories it builds up but I think once they start school I will stop. My DH doesn’t post photos on his account because he has 1k friends on their which is ridiculous.

I do not post pictures of mine or anyone else's children. Children cannot consent to this and I consider it an awful breach of their privacy. I'd hate to have pics of me as a child floating around the Internet (unless I have specifically chosen to share them).

I only have instagram and it's private with only people who are in my life as friends.

I post my children on my stories, which disappear.
I do also post them on my grid, but not as the point of interest. For example... a picture of the Eiffel Tower with my kids near it etc. I don't post pictures of them when they start potty training, in the bath, sleeping, or just my kids for the sake of it.
I don't know if that makes it better, but I feel comfortable with it.

Exactly this

My children are not on social media in any way. I made no pregnancy announcements or birth announcements never mind put photos of them on there. My family were told no photos and they have 100% respected that. Only exception I made was my sister’s wedding photos but there was such a large group in the photo that you barely noticed the tiny people. She still omitted any of just them out of the social media album. I’m not the only one in my family to have made this choice though so that helps.

All that being said, I don’t have much of an issue with other people posting their kids, although I do find it a bit boring if it’s constant.

Once a picture is posted on social media it is no longer your property, but theirs.

I have no kid photos on any social media and have asked friends and family to do the same which they have been very respectful of. I love looking through my parents old photo albums from when I was small but no way would I want them plastered all over the Internet so why should my kids put up with it? Also, future employers may very well find those photos years down the line which wouldn't sit well with me if they missed out on a promotion or new job because of my silly posts.

There is not a single photo of my DC on social media, I would hit the roof if I found one.

I do have face book under a fake name no pics no friends nothing that just to follow knitting groups and migraine groups and market place.Other than mumsnet nothing.Call text or whatsApp me.

I have a work friend (not close with her )that post everything, even what she eats.
And her children every aspect of her and kids life online.
She looks like she has the perfect life but not true so in love online shes been divorce twice moans about new partner at work.
My kids are my world really moans to everyone how she wished the dad would have them longer their hard work.
Im lucky to own my home my kids are blessed huuummm moan at work that housing wont move you and up your bidding band.
We are blessed to be on holiday in scotland are you sure cause that looks like cornwall It was cornwall kids look like their forced to smile its to staged.
Funny tho she thinks no one nos.

A few years ago i went for lunch with 4 of my very close mates that had nothing to talk about when we went out all they keep saying was oh year i saw that online i said you have nothing to say because you post everything online everyone nos what you have done already.
Im still good mates and very close to them but not one as SM now.
It nice when we meet up because we can catch up and have loads to talk about.

SM is like big brother and fake as it can be.