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I am so proud of my 14 yr old son

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dippydeedoo · 04/03/2008 23:26

Last week a schoolfriends Dad passed away,tomorrow is the funeral-ds1 aged 14 whose usually quite reserved said to us can you take me to xxxxx chapel tomorrow? when we asked why it turns out that he wants to be there for his friend his friends sister has several of her close friends for support and the boy is trying to be quite brave,our son feels quite strongly he needs to be there for his friend when we explained funerals are very sad and his friend might be very upset and not needing attention he simply said then i will be there and he will know i was there for him and that i will always be there for him with a hand as i know he would for me ...its not about me going and shouting im here to him its about me being there out of respect.

im so proud of him and although we didnt know the mum and dad really ,only to say hi too i ased him did he want me to reschedule stuff and go with him? no he said this isnt about me -i need to do this .....i said its too late to organise a wreath or anything he said i will use my xmas money and put it in the candle box.

hes thought it through and his dads agreed to take him and wait then drive him back to school afterwards.

what do u lot think? im quite proud of him altho i wish it was different circumstances.

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winniethewino · 04/03/2008 23:29

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Beauregard · 04/03/2008 23:30

What a kind and supportive friend your ds is
You should be very proud

MarsLady · 04/03/2008 23:30

What a gorgeous boy! You're right to be proud!

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dippydeedoo · 04/03/2008 23:31

ty winnie i am v proud of him but sad too in this situation,thanks xx

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WendyWeber · 04/03/2008 23:32

Oh, that is wonderful - what a lovely boy he is. Just being there for a friend is such an important thing to do.

You are right to be so proud, ddd.

Califrau · 04/03/2008 23:36

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MaureenMLove · 04/03/2008 23:39

What a wonderful lad you have there! And you know what? YOU & DH made him like he is! Extra hugs all round in your house, be proud of your ds and be very proud of yourselves too!

ladette · 04/03/2008 23:50

Proud of him for you and well done you and DH!

stuffitllama · 05/03/2008 00:01

What a wonderful, mature boy.

shabster · 05/03/2008 00:06

I am bursting with pride at your darling son and I dont know either you or him.

To care, at such at young age, about anybody like your son is doing is priceless.

I have been bereaved of 2 of my 4 lovley sons and I salute your lad - nobody praises young people anymore. Well done son.

I could cry at this moment, but I wont, because there are some wonderful, strong people on this earth xxxx

unknownrebelbang · 05/03/2008 00:10

Oh my, what a lovely boy.

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helibee · 05/03/2008 00:40

he is such a credit to you. My mum died 2 years ago when i was 23 and my brother was 20, although we were a bit older, it meant so much to know that people were there for us. Give your son a huge hug (if he'll let you , i'll be thinking of the poor family who've lost their dad too

also big hugs to you shabster x

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dippydeedoo · 05/03/2008 08:44

thanks everyone (esp shabster and helibeee) hes gone off to it now, my dh is going to go in with him as ds1 has never been to a funeral before and tbh he did look relieved when his dad said he would go too...............its at times like this you see how they have grown upxxx ty all again xx

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Twiglett · 05/03/2008 08:49

That made me cry

Yes I would be exceptionally proud of him and of yourselves for bringing him up with emotional intelligence and respect.

He is right, very right! I wish more adults would demonstrate that empathy.

He will be a fine and honourable man

bozza · 05/03/2008 08:51

Definitely something to be proud of. His poor friend.

chrissnow · 05/03/2008 08:52

You are so right to be proud. What a lovely lad. A credit to obviously lovely parents.
Please can you stay on MN for the next 15 years. I would be happy for him to be boyfriend to either of my 2 girls (and believe me that is not said lightly )

LilRedWG · 05/03/2008 08:53

What a wonderful young man you have raised.

Wotz · 05/03/2008 08:56

What a considerate boy you have and what a good friend his mate has. Such a sad time for them all.

2shoes · 05/03/2008 09:00

wow you are right to be proud what a fantastic son you have.

Kindersurpise · 05/03/2008 09:01

You are quite right to be proud of your DS. What a good friend he is.

Hulababy · 05/03/2008 09:08

You are right to be proud of him. He sounds like a wonderfully considerate boy. And such a great friend to have too. He is a credit to you.

pindy · 05/03/2008 09:10

You are soooo right to be proud of him. A very similar thing happened to the dad of my son's best mate, and my DS (14 also) went round to see BM asap, I didn't know he was going. He just wanted to be there for him!

Wow - don't hear of these stories very often, that's what happened to out lovely cute little boys!

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dippydeedoo · 05/03/2008 10:18

ahh u lot have made me cry thankyou all of u ......chrissnow he said hes staying home for at least 10 more years so we must eep in touch lol .....i have 2 younger sons too

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chrissnow · 05/03/2008 10:22

Excellent. one each for my girls and a spare!!!

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