I am so proud of my 14 yr old son

[dippydeedoo]

Last week a schoolfriends Dad passed away,tomorrow is the funeral-ds1 aged 14 whose usually quite reserved said to us can you take me to xxxxx chapel tomorrow? when we asked why it turns out that he wants to be there for his friend his friends sister has several of her close friends for support and the boy is trying to be quite brave,our son feels quite strongly he needs to be there for his friend when we explained funerals are very sad and his friend might be very upset and not needing attention he simply said then i will be there and he will know i was there for him and that i will always be there for him with a hand as i know he would for me ...its not about me going and shouting im here to him its about me being there out of respect.

im so proud of him and although we didnt know the mum and dad really ,only to say hi too i ased him did he want me to reschedule stuff and go with him? no he said this isnt about me -i need to do this .....i said its too late to organise a wreath or anything he said i will use my xmas money and put it in the candle box.

hes thought it through and his dads agreed to take him and wait then drive him back to school afterwards.

what do u lot think? im quite proud of him altho i wish it was different circumstances.

Just wanted to say I hope everthing went as well as could have been expected at the funeral. Like all the other posters, I felt proud of your ds myself, without knowing him. Loyalty, sensitivity and thoughtfulness will take your ds far in life. Hugs to you both.

What a lovely boy. A credit to you.

thanks again ....the funeral did go well sadly the friends twin sister was too upset to go and her best friend went on her behalf...my son and dh sat at the back and dh (whose not catholic) said he felt very moved to see our son follow the mass so respectfully,as they left the young lad (who had been consoling his vv upset mum) came over and thanked ds and dh and shook hands,ds returned to school -was sombre on the way home then he went straight upstairs to his own dad (my dh)who was sleeping-hes a night worker and just hugged him tight and said thanks ,i have to say that day is a defining moment for me as the day my ds1 showed signs of the man he will become.

He sounds like a wonderful young man. Teenagers get such bad press, but it's the ones like your son that we just don't see - you can't see someone being kind and sensitive on a street corner, and media don't tend to see it as much of story.

Awwww dippy - this thread has had me sniveling again

When we buried my DS3 (aged 7) the church was full and there were people stood outside. Almost every child came from his primary school. This may sound mad but it was the best funeral I have ever attended. The children behaved impeccably - they sung at the top of their voices and laughed in the right places when the vicar talked about Mattie. I was sooooo proud that day.

Your DS sounds like my eldest (26 yrs now) and believe me if he turns out like my DS, which I think he will, you will be a lucky mum I can't explain enough how proud of your DS I am - so mature, so caring.

Oh Im going before I start doing the snotty cry again

thanks everyone ....shabster im so sorry for you hun i cant imagine or begin to understand how you must feel -its like a mums worst worst nightmare i too have a ds3 whose 7 called matt the funeral you describe sounds lovely but what a experience you have had ...you are a strong lady xxxxxxxxxxxxx

dippy - only just managed to get back on the computer - DS4 thinks we bought it just for him at xmas

Life has been 'interesting' but I am a lucky mum - with first granbaby due in June - another little lad - I lurve little boys. If you look in my profile photos you will see my matt. Am going to update it this week and put some of my baby (Gareth) photos on.

As I said before your son sounds so very wonderful - give him a love from me xx

shabster theyre lovely pics i luuurve that pram too lol ....u can mail me anytime hun [email protected]

Hi dippy - thanks for contact details. Much appreciated x