Tell me your age gaps (3+ children)

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Hi everyone

I'm considering a 3rd child (my husband will probably say no, but I'm putting together my case!!!).

If you have 3 or more children, what are you age gaps please?

3 years and 2 months between child 1 and child 2.
20 months between child 2 and child 3.

Dd 1
DS 22 months later
DD2 4yrs 7 months later

I have been truly blessed. They have never fought . Genuinely love each other all the way along .

Now 21 , nearly 26 and 27/9 months.

2 years (and 2 days) between eldest and middle.
17 months between middle and youngest
Elsest is 7, youngest is 4. I struggle to remember a lot of my middle child being a toddler because it was so hectic and I was so pregnant / sleep deprived from no 3.
however, they now do play all together and are pretty inseparable when we are at home. They constantly argue but they hate playing apart. I’m not sure if this is a good thing or not 😂😩

4 DCs, age gaps:
17 months
3 years
2 years
6.5yrs from dc1 to dc4

2 year gap was the hardest, 17 months the best.

18, 16 & 14

DC1 to DC 2 2 years 6 months
DC2 to DC 3 2 years 8 months
DC3 to DC 4 2 years 4 months

Three under 3.
April 82, Aug 83, Mar 85.
roughly 16 mths apart.

3 yrs 8 months between all of mine. Not planned that way.

I have four, roughly a year between each one. They're now 15, 16, 17 and 18 and get on great (2 boys and 2 girls).

I have three, just under four years between eldest and youngest.

The age gaps are 16 months and two years five months.

I wanted to have them all close together.

Thanks everyone.

My age gap would be approx 4 years per child. I'm ok with this but wondering about the practical implications.

1 - 2 : two years
2-3 : 18 months

3-4 : four years
4-5 : two years

in my opinion, the general vicinity of two years is perfect. Four years was way too much.

14, 8 and 18m
not sure wether it’s easier than close together. 3 is hard. 2 was a walk in the park

I'd love to have had mine first two (and this potential 3rd) closer together but how is this possible with childcare?! I'm in Ireland so no free hours etc. jealous of those who can facilitate a 2/3 year gap.

Nearly 3 years between dd1 and dd2. 6 1/4 years between dd2 and dd3. Would recommend! It was lovely for the big girls to have a baby in the house, they've always all had great relationships and now the older two are adults it's so nice to still have one at home a bit longer. We were very young parents though, last dd born when I was 30.

2yrs exactly between 1 & 2
5yrs between 2 & 3
11yrs between 3 & 4 - a happy surprise!

Eldest is 18yrs and youngest 7months. I worried it was too much of a gap but they all adore their baby brother and actually has made us a bit closer as a family unit. The teenagers spend more time sitting downstairs with us rather than festering in bedrooms.

I am sorry to hear about your stillborn baby. X

I'm 1 of 3 so will add that:
DC1 to DC2 2 years 9m
DC2 to DC3 6 years 11m
I'm the middle and we are all adults now, you'd never know there was 10y between my 2 brothers.

But mainly came on to add how interesting I find these threads! And OP I'm in a similar position to you re childcare being a huge factor on how many we can have and when. I've only got 1 at the moment and the cost of his childcare alone is wild. We are planning to try for number 2 end of this year so all being well and quick we'd have 2.5y age gap. Ideally I'd like 3 kids but struggling to see how, because of cost of childcare vs how old we are. I don't really have time to wait 4+ years between each one, but the way nursery fees are going I'd probably have to give up work if we went for a third 2 or so years after the second. Tough decisions to make but will cross that bridge when we come to it I guess.

2.7 years between dc1 and dc2
4years 11 months between dv2 and dc3

7 years between 1 and 3.
3 year gap then a 4 year gap.

wouldn’t recommend it tbh. Hard to find activities that everyone wants to do and hard still being in the child stage and teenager phase at the same time.
much as I love them all I’d advise anyone else to strongly consider sticking at 2 and being grateful and content for what you have.

Having said that - the larger gaps did mean that I got to do proper focused baby time with 2 and 3 as their older siblings were at nursery and school.

DS1 and DS2 3 yr 9
DS2 and DS3 3yr 9
Just worked out that way
1 miscarriage between 1 and 2

Dc 1 and 2 is 6 years gap
Dc 2 and 3 is 3 years gap
Dc 3 and 4 is 3 years.

Between dc 1 and 4 there's 13 years. It's not something I'd recommend now. My mother warned me as there's 13 years between my brother and I and we don't have a sibling relationship. There's no common ground for us at all. By time I was 5 they had moved out and away for university and never came back.

Our age gap is difficult. Days out as family are now non existent. What 16 year old wants to go to peppa pig world with a 3 year old sibling. But reality is what 3 year old finds Thorpe park suitable either.

The gaps between 2,3 and 4 are much easier to manage. There's so much more of a sibling relationship there.

1year, 16years, 2years.