What is something you've taken from your parents and used in your own parenting

[lilacsky89]

Obviously there are usually some things we would change (and for some everything you would change ☹️) but what is something you think your parents did really well at and you want to or have used in your own parenting? Maybe something your parents did that has had a really positive impact on your adult life?

Just one parent to another looking for some parenting tips that are actually from the childhood point of view/experience

Just did the opposite. Which will hopefully mean far happier memories of childhood.

My parents took us out a lot. Nothing fancy but every weekend was filled with walks, trips to the seaside, nature parks etc and I've adopted this with our own DC.

Patience and resilience. Learning to deal with upsets and disappointments, learning to wait for things instead of instant gratification. Honesty and respect. Quiet, organised and non chaotic household - no arguments, no door slamming nor other drama! Discipline of having rules, knowing the rules, and enforcing the rules, right from the earliest of ages. (And no, that doesn't mean beating the shit out of your child! - discipline can be enforced without physical or mental abuse).

It's how both myself and OH were brought up, probably why we got together as our values are virtually identical.

We were "on the same page" together with our son, and brought him up the same way really. No tantrums, no "terrible teens", no problems with drugs, drink, crime, etc, no "dodgy" mates. Straight A* pupil at school. Graduated with a first from Uni. Now about to start his first job at a Blue Chip company with exceptional career prospects in a very niche highly paid, highly valued, profession.

Start young and you can stay on top of things.

Same here.

My mother was very unusual in her day (60s) for having a career. I don't remember her ever not working. I think she went back to work (part time at first) just three months after having me.

She was fiercely independent and earned more than my father, who himself was a manager! She definitely wore the trousers in the home. My father likewise was not a typical husband, he rarely went out to the pub etc., did a lot of household tasks, so was around a lot and very much a family man doing things with us.

At the time, I thought it was normal, but looking back, most of my school friends had "stay at home mothers", I just didn't realise at the time.