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Not got a good vibe from reception class allocation.

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londonmum19889 · 08/07/2023 20:56

Hello,

My son is starting primary school in September. We got sent the class list and I recognise the names of several mums. I know them all separately from local baby/toddler groups mutual birthday parties ect in the past as we live in a small town.

To keep it short I have never had a good connection.

I know quite a few other mums in the other class who are super friendly chatty ect. My son has been invited to their parties ect,

I am just wondering if it is worth asking to swap classes?

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Guineapigwoes · 08/07/2023 20:57

No HTH

Whattodowithit88 · 08/07/2023 20:58

No. Just suck it up, you will probably find they swap classes again the year after anyway

Mapples · 08/07/2023 20:59

Nope, they won't switch you round. You can also keep in contact with parents and children from the other class, you might find if you're more open minded you'll get on with the other parents too (and if not it doesn't really matter anyway). The majority of multi entry schools switch it up every year anyway. Unless there's another reason you have reservations that you're hesitant to say....

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Clymene · 08/07/2023 20:59

No. It's not about you making friends, it's your child's education.

fiorentina · 08/07/2023 21:00

I wouldn’t worry. My DC always played with kids in the other class too. And absolutely no obligation to be ‘friends’ with other mums in the class. I’m pleasant to everyone obviously but wasn’t seeking to make close friends with other mums.

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 08/07/2023 21:00

Wise the fuck up. This is your son's place of education, not a place for you to act the snob and pick out who you fancy socialising with.

Littlebluebird123 · 08/07/2023 21:00

You can ask but I can't imagine they'd agree.

Your child will make friends and you'll get to know those parents. Some you will like, some you will tolerate and some you'll never see.

It's not essential for you as the parent to have friends in order for your child to settle well and make their own friends. You can still speak to the other mums that you like. It's likely that you'll see them in the playground etc.

Often schools of this size change the classes each year anyway.

Please don't worry about this. It will be a non event in the long run.

Peony654 · 08/07/2023 21:00

Of course not. It’s his education-not your socialising

HurricanesHardlyEverHappen · 08/07/2023 21:01

You can't ask for your child to move classes so that he is in the same class as the children of your friends.

YallaYallaaa · 08/07/2023 21:01

You want your son to swap classes because you like the other mums better?

Read that again to yourself and see if it sounds remotely reasonable….

KateyCuckoo · 08/07/2023 21:02

Wow it's not about you!

Embelline · 08/07/2023 21:02

If you had said your son was worried about not being in with his friends/he had a great connection with the children of the other mums and it would ease his transition then I'd say it couldn't hurt to ask. However your post is all about you and your connection and how friendly the mums are to you. So I'm afraid I'm going to agree with the other posters and say it's not about you, it's about your son.

Smartiepants79 · 08/07/2023 21:03

And how did your son get on with the other children?
This is not about YOU at all, how you felt you ‘connected’ with the other mums is utterly irrelevant.
School will not be changing the classes around at this stage in the year unless you have evidence of serious bullying. They certainly won’t be moving the children because you haven’t made best friends with the other mums.

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londonmum19889 · 08/07/2023 21:08

Thanks, everyone I appreciate the straight-talking advice. Taken it all on board and will obviously embrace the class given and hopefully my son will thrive as rightly so that's all that important.

Appreciate the note about not requesting to change class and obviously won't be sending an email etc
.

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londonmum19889 · 08/07/2023 21:10

Thank you I appreciate your kind message.

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TinyTeacher · 08/07/2023 21:13

Well done for taking advice on board OP. Best not to be thought of as a difficult parent before your child even starts - if something does happen that you need to speakto the teacher about you're much more likely to be taken seriously if you haven't contacted over this.....

TenThousandSpoons · 08/07/2023 21:15

I felt like this when my son’s class was allocated. Most of his little buddies and the mums I was friendly with were in the other class. I may have shed a tear!
Fast forward a few years and his class turned out to have the loveliest kids and he’s made amazing friendships. The other class the boys are mostly into football now whereas he isn’t and I’m very glad he got the classmates he did.

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londonmum19889 · 08/07/2023 21:17

Thanks, everyone.

Yes I could see myself going down being that parent mode on something as ridiculous as a vibe from some other mums.

Good to know mumsnet is here to say what people might think!

Everyone's comments have quickly made me put it all into perspective. I think its probably a bit of anxiety about my son starting school ect feeding into this.

Going forward I will only have postive things to say on the matter!

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2bazookas · 08/07/2023 21:47

Don't worry hun. It's your son who's going to reception class, not you.

JobMatch3000 · 08/07/2023 21:54

Is it normal to share a list of names? What about GDPR?

SayHi · 08/07/2023 21:55

It’s not about you, it’s about your child.

The class would have been chosen with your child in mind, do not be selfish and put yourself before your child.

ballsdeep · 08/07/2023 22:06

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 08/07/2023 21:00

Wise the fuck up. This is your son's place of education, not a place for you to act the snob and pick out who you fancy socialising with.

This. Don’t be that parent before you’ve even started

RudsyFarmer · 08/07/2023 22:07

🤣. You’re funny OP.

elenacampana · 08/07/2023 22:16

londonmum19889 · 08/07/2023 21:17

Thanks, everyone.

Yes I could see myself going down being that parent mode on something as ridiculous as a vibe from some other mums.

Good to know mumsnet is here to say what people might think!

Everyone's comments have quickly made me put it all into perspective. I think its probably a bit of anxiety about my son starting school ect feeding into this.

Going forward I will only have postive things to say on the matter!

I’d have said the same as most others but you’ve already accepted it and done so very pleasantly! If you’re as nice to the other mums as you’ve been here, all will be fine.

elenacampana · 08/07/2023 22:18

JobMatch3000 · 08/07/2023 21:54

Is it normal to share a list of names? What about GDPR?

I’m far from a GDPR expert, but as the children aren’t kept secret from parents when school starts, I can’t see why they’d be kept secret beforehand. Most of them know each other from nursery anyway and if a parent has concerns, they can always request their child’s name/photos are kept out of mailing lists etc.

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