Not got a good vibe from reception class allocation.

[londonmum19889]

Hello,

My son is starting primary school in September. We got sent the class list and I recognise the names of several mums. I know them all separately from local baby/toddler groups mutual birthday parties ect in the past as we live in a small town.

To keep it short I have never had a good connection.

I know quite a few other mums in the other class who are super friendly chatty ect. My son has been invited to their parties ect,

I am just wondering if it is worth asking to swap classes?

You can't ask to move classes because of this but I got a bad vibe when my DC started reception...from both kids (nothing wrong but didn't gel as a group) and parents (vile bunch). All I can say is my first impressions were correct.

Surprised you got a list! We don’t hand out class lists due to GDPR. Anyway glad you realised you would be labelled a difficult parent.

I hope your son enjoys reception. I can totally understand you feeling nervous about it. To share a positive experience, I was unsure about some of the classmates I know dd would have when she started reception but, several years on, she's had a wonderful time at school and continues to thrive.

I feel your pain, I lucked out either eldest class, second child I got all the cliquey mums - 3 years in still like it, just hosted a birthday party and some mums can barely be civil when spoken to. Luckily my child is oblivious, but he has been excluded from parties as I'm not in the inner gang - mentioned in front of me!

Hope your son has a great start to school OP.

Agree. Are you mad OP? I mean seriously!

Ok you're not actually mad! I'm glad you can see not too do this. My advice is to not focus too much on the mum friendship stuff. It takes time...

I never heard of a school sending out the names of the whole class! You usually just find out what your class is and find out other kids through the grapevine. They are almost asking for people to get upset and want swaps!

When your dc1 starts school meeting the parents is like starting school yourself.

You get all the usual groups forming……nice polite, inclusive people , obnoxious arseholes, the can’t be fucked anti-socials, the love themselves clique.

So there will be like minded people in the playground and over time you will find out who they are….probably by the end of the first term. Just a case of finding the group you naturally fit in with.

It can be a triggering experience for the first time. Second time around I’m sure you’re just too tired to care.

This!

We're not even allowed surnames on trays in class, so I'm very surprised that they are sending home lists of children's names to other parents. Def a gdpr issue.

Definitely agree!

Second time around my daughters class (and the mums) are ridiculously cliquey and factions have formed complete with school gate slanging matches but frankly IDGAF!

When your dc1 starts school meeting the parents is like starting school yourself.

He will have started though, as she wrote this in July and its March now.