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Social Services..

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ash677x · 17/06/2023 22:04

I'm at risk of losing my two girls to Foster care..
So basically, my children are on the child protection register because I tapped my daughter on the hip.. for confirmed physical chastisement.

There has been a safety plan in place for weeks now.. where I have to be supervised 24/7 with the children, someone has to be in the room with me 24/7, and if they leave the room we have to go with them. Totally unrealistic. Now my partner and family members, have done everything to make this work, rearranging work days, working from home etc, they all work.

I have been going to my mums during the day, as my brothers there, now he's studying upstairs, but he's still in the house, My old social worker was completely fine with that.

Now my children are on the Child Protection Register, i have a new social worker.

She came out on Tuesday.. asked where my brother was, I said he's upstairs studying, it was never a problem till you came in, she stated he has to be in the room 24/7. He's a 21 year old man, he is studying for his third year at university, he has a social life!!!

Now, I'm okay to be on my own without my kids, I have begged social services for a support worker to supervise me, emergency childcare..

I asked her on Tuesday about childcare, this "has to be brought to panel" but three weeks ago, on a Thursday afternoon, she offered me emergency childcare for the next day because i had no supervision.

They are setting me up to fail.. its like they want to get the chance to remove my children because they know its completely impossible for someone to be with me 24/7😪

Has anyone had experience with this.. and the outcome?

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ballsdeep · 17/06/2023 22:07

Is there some sort of back story here?

Louisetopaz21 · 17/06/2023 22:08

It must have been more than a tap on the hip for supervised visits. There must have been marks? I can't really comment on anything else though.

MrsSamR · 17/06/2023 22:08

I'm sorry but there's more to this - your children don't go on the child protection register for being tapped on the hip??

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RedRosette2023 · 17/06/2023 22:08

OP what do you want from this post?

Theres more to this.

whatthefreshhell · 17/06/2023 22:09

No way are they on a CP plan with such extreme conditions for a tap on the hip. That wouldn't even meet threshold to get an initial social work visit.

CremeEgg1983 · 17/06/2023 22:10

CP has a high threshold and I don't believe the threshold would be met for just a tap on the hip. Are there other issues as well?

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 17/06/2023 22:10

This doesn't sit right in loads of ways, not least you being supervised by your own family 24/7. It doesn't seem feasible or enforceable

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 17/06/2023 22:10

There’s more to your story than you’re telling. Or you don’t understand your own actions. One of the two.

McTerfy · 17/06/2023 22:10

You’re not really being truthful though.

Hellocatshome · 17/06/2023 22:10

They are not under child protection because you tapped one on the hip.

Polik · 17/06/2023 22:10

Could your children move in with a family member, rather than you? You can then spend as much time as you can there, but they are present when you're there.

Alittlesummeroasis · 17/06/2023 22:12

Children don’t go on the CP register for a tap on the hip, and most children on the CP reg don’t require supervised contact. There is much much more going on here. Work with children’s services, and be open and honest about your mistakes with yourself. If you can’t acknowledge where you need to change, and work cooperatively with CSS then removal is far more likely.

ThursdayFreedom · 17/06/2023 22:12

If you want help from here, you're going to need to hinest withbus.

NahNotTodaySatan · 17/06/2023 22:12

Sorry op but no one buys your story. There's absolutely no way social services would be involved because you tapped your daughter on the hip. The arranged visits doesn't make any sense either, how would they police that?

ThursdayFreedom · 17/06/2023 22:13

ThursdayFreedom · 17/06/2023 22:12

If you want help from here, you're going to need to hinest withbus.

Bloody phone!

honest with us

no busses necessary!!

Dacadactyl · 17/06/2023 22:14

Polik · 17/06/2023 22:10

Could your children move in with a family member, rather than you? You can then spend as much time as you can there, but they are present when you're there.

This. Or if SS are OK with the care being given by your partner (presuming he's the father?), I'd be tempted to move out myself, rather than run the risk of the children going into foster care.

As others have said, the CP plan seems very extreme to me with the 24/7 monitoring.

What category are the children under on the CP plan? Is it physical abuse?

Comedycook · 17/06/2023 22:14

What really happened?

Summerishereagain · 17/06/2023 22:15

Hellocatshome · 17/06/2023 22:10

They are not under child protection because you tapped one on the hip.

This!

Stressfordays · 17/06/2023 22:18

Please stop lying to yourself, you need to see the reality in order to make the changes.

neewred · 17/06/2023 22:18

Please be honest with us OP so we can try and help

blackbeardsballsack · 17/06/2023 22:20

There is no point asking for advice if you're going to lie and minimise. Lying and minimising clearly hasn't done you any favours during the CP process.

NameChangeSorryNotSorry · 17/06/2023 22:21

blackbeardsballsack · 17/06/2023 22:20

There is no point asking for advice if you're going to lie and minimise. Lying and minimising clearly hasn't done you any favours during the CP process.

This

sureigot20 · 17/06/2023 22:24

There is no way they are on a CP plan for a 'tap'.

HereComesMaleficent · 17/06/2023 22:27

CP Register for a "tap on the hip"....me thinks not.

If you can't be honest with yourself and the reasons you are facing this then the situation will never better.

Start with the truth, and things will begin to change.

LakeTiticaca · 17/06/2023 22:34

Agreed with all above. A tap on the hip, unless it was with a sledgehammer. Sorry but there has to be more than this.

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