Screaming kids and no parenting

[GeorginaBell]

Why do so many kids these days scream when playing (I don’t mean the odd excited scream I mean persistent like they’re wing attacked but not) and absolutely no parent can be bothered to even say sweetheart play but don’t scream like that? Where is the care or decency and respect for neighbours anymore? We have a park litt30 seconds away and not one parent near us can be bothered to take them yet plenty of others passing do. Then when we politely ask them to just not scream the parents get rough and act as if we are in the wrong?! Fair enough if it’s in their own house but outside ours for 5 hours straight shouting and screaming. Is this how trashy people ha bc e now become?!

"scream" is a subjective word in this context.

To me, screaming is the noise of pain, or acute anger. If children were subject to pain or acute anger for anything close to 5h, one would assume emergency services would be involved.

Others could use the word "scream" as raised voices of exuberance and play.

Others sill may consider the presence of lots of children and the way many voices compete to be heard as "screaming"

I've known some say "she/he was screaming at me" when no actual raised voices happened, it was just forthright and direct disagreement.

You live 30 seconds from a park and it must be loud, especially during half term. Approaching invididual children or parents about this is not the right way to deal with noise nuisance. They may consider the noise level acceptable, even if you disagree. If it bothers you so much, I'd suggest approaching the council.

People have been not giving a shit about others for years. I'd expect this if I lived near a park.
I’m listening to kids 3 gardens away over the back of my long garden screaming constantly daily. With all my windows shut of an evening when it's stifling, sat in my bedroom until about 9:30pm. Fuck all I can do about it.

Maybe it's better described as "shrieking" then. That seems to fit much better. It's somewhere between actual screaming, playful exuberance and shouting. But still completely unnecessary when the shriekee is physically within two feet of the shrieker and everyone else very much further away still have to listen to it. Not surprised schools promote "indoor voices".

They’re not screaming in the park. We don’t hear anyone there. They are directly right outside my house screaming and it is what it is not subjective. It’s high pitched and we all know what screams are. I just think it’s time parents got off their backsides and took them. The amount of excuses I hear is astonishing.

Oh god I feel for you. We had it for a few years daily through school holidays. Our neighbor said yeah they’re annoying I can’t do with it so I put them in the garden! Hence why we can hear it. It’s just not ok absolutely no regard for others so unbelievably selfish. All kids can still have fun without screaming and it definitely isn’t shrieking it’s full on screaming at the highest pitch continuously.

Fair enough if it’s in their own house

Not really. I have neighbours. DD was loud and she had to be told indoors because of neighbours, in the garden ditto, in the playground also, it was a bloody nightmare. I did used to let her go the odd time away from people because poor kid was shushed 24/7.

Agree with you completely. Shitty parents, although people will be coming on here to say otherwise and how's its perfectly normal (except ita not because not all kids do it!!)

Yes my kids do this. I am constantly saying be quiet, bringing the 4yr old inside. He is actually driving all of us insane. I have explained the inside voice thousands of times. And whining too. Omg. It's why I am up now to get some peace. Even the fun screams are painful now.

Also talking at me
And now my 12yr old calls me. From his bedroom. When I am in the garden. To ask me for stuff like screen time. Argh.

If it bothers you so much, I'd suggest approaching the council.

As if you’re going to bother the bloody council because a few shit parents won’t tell their children to be quiet.

I’m with you OP, a lot of parents seem to just not parent these days. I say that as a 24 year old mum of two😂 I think there’s a lot of misinformation on social media about how you should parent and a lot of people just become passive parents tbh

My daughter has had friends round to play, and three of them would just shriek for no apparent reason. I'll be honest, I found it irritating. DD has also had other friends round where all you can hear is lovely chatting and laughing. I don't think it's all kids, but what noise levels are tolerated at home.

My child and any visiting children are told they are not allowed to shout. People don't teach children manners or consideration anymore and pander to the most awful behaviour.

Yanbu, the noise puts me on edge. DC’s shrieking friends don’t get invited back for play dates if they won’t stop.

exactly it’s normal to them and they’ve no care or respect for others. For years we’ve come back in the house, in summer sat stifled because opening the windows is not an option to hear it, driven off in the car somewhere and now we’re tired of it. First it was her kids screaming and now she has 6 of her grandkids over every night after school and they’re all screaming she says she doesn’t like it - not once has she ever told them not that we heard while we were out. She said that’s what all kids do and I’m sorry but they do not. Some are taught and others different efforts are likely needed and with her she leaves them outside ours to do it.

Wish you were my neighbour!

I totally agree they are like that because that’s how they’ve been allowed to be at home in the first place

I can't stand it, mine don't do it any more as they've learned it hurts people's ears to screetch like demented banshees, but it's the literally making screaming noises for the sake of making screaming noises kids I can't be around, there's two boys in my dd's class who spill out of the classroom at kick out time and they just SCREAM like demented dinosaurs, just like "AAAAA!! AA! AAAA! AAAAAAAAAA! in each others faces, it literally hurts to have to listen to them and the parents just smile indulgently. I get it, kids will be kids, but not that loud, please!

We’ve decided to move a while ago anyway but a lot in house to do until we do but nearly there. We are going to find people just like them to sell it to and i can’t wait. 13 years of this with some of her 5 kids and now theirs.

Exactly and all they’re raising are children with no respect because these parents don’t have any themselves.

Absolutely agree I think they’re feral.

It needs a different approach and exactly what I don’t know but something. If not for your own sanity. At least you bring him inside and care for others enough to. I appreciate at that age they can’t manage themselves but definitely hard when it’s the go to sound.

I don't know. I have one fairly quiet ds who the neighbours can probably hear once a month. But next door have three plus a group of cousins who are regular visitors, and are pretty noisy.

It doesn't bother me. Shrieking and laughing around a paddling pool seems normal to me. I'd hate to hush them. They are in school all week. They're just letting off steam.

Maybe it's proximity. They're about fifty feet away, over a hedge.

I can totally see both sides of this because I have kids and when they have friends there (which isn’t that frequent & I try to take all kids out when I do), they do get excited and squeal at times. We have a small garden with a trampoline and the sound does bounce around a lot unfortunately. I limit their time in garden a bit for this reason, without chastening them too much for being kids. I will just break up the day by going to the park, for a walk, watch a film etc to give neighbours a break. Our neighbour approached us about garden noise once and it turned out it was not just us he was hearing but we got the blame because we were closest, he just assumed it was always us. I did apologise profusely for any noise we make, it does grate, but the kids must be allowed to play in garden sometimes too. I never let them out there before 10am and it’s quiet from 7pm- I do think I’m reasonable.
I did make a comment to neighbour once that I’ve shut my kids indoors now so could he refrain from the DYI work he does regularly as well. He looked at me like I was INSANE and has not commented on noise we make again - probably because he has his shed and is in there for at least 4-5 hours a day.

I once lived near a pre school and remember rushing to the window one summer thinking there was an axeman on the playground or something. I get that kids playing outside make noise but it was like these kids were all screaming, all the time for the entire time they were out there.

Maybe it's because we are less likely to know our neighbours that we act like we're existing in bubbles and have no effect on others.

Ah no playing and laughing is cute this what we have is persistent AAAAAHHHHHHHH constantly and screaming for long lengths and nothing said. It’s daily 4-8, weekends all day and if it stops it’s only while they’re in eating for 20 minutes then starts again. It’s really distressing there’s no real dire need for it.