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So whats it like going from 2 to the magic number 3?

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MiMao · 20/02/2008 14:10

Just wondered because we have planned to do just this later on this year.

Is it much different from 1 to 2?... I found the first year quite tricky

My friend said she did not notice much of a change from 2-3, the 3rd just seemed to fit in.

What about bath time? I bet that is noisy!

I am dreaming about Christmas mornings and three children running to see their gifts and all chasing each other in parks and all of us sitting around a table trying to get their word in

But whats the reality???

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NorthernLurker · 20/02/2008 16:48

The other thing people assumed - and told us - was that we had to be 'going for a boy' this time. We were'nt! Good job too as dd3 duly arrived

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NorthernLurker · 20/02/2008 16:52

Fio - 6 year gap worked for me

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peanutbear · 20/02/2008 16:57

I really enjoy it now it was hard work at first though mine are 9, 4 and 19 months

If we are all working in Harmony like today in Tesco everything is great

When it kicks off though its a nightmare

the only downside and its tiny is DS1 gets a lot of homework and he needs the 1-1 time and that is very difficult to give him as DH works away 3 weeks of the month

NorthernLurker · 20/02/2008 17:02

Fio - i totally agree - When I had dd1 I don't think I had ever held a baby! I really like knowing that dd1 and dd2 will never be in that place - that they have seen and enjoyed life with a new baby, have seen me b/feeding etc. And watching them play with this new little person and watching her face light up as she sees them - 3 really is a magic number!!!

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MiMao · 20/02/2008 17:22

Its great hearing your stories!

My girls are great and very sweet, they love babies so if and when no.3 comes along they will him or her. I guess it will all depend on no.3's personality. Lets hope he/she is laid back and ok about waiting for things in life because I am not the most organised person

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peanutbear · 20/02/2008 17:24

MiMao nether am I so my children have no choice other than to be fairly aid back!!!

peanutbear · 20/02/2008 17:24

MiMao nether am I so my children have no choice other than to be fairly aid back!!!

popsycal · 20/02/2008 19:33

I am waitinmg for the following comments (when we eventually get round to telling people)

a. was it planned?

and /or
b. were you trying for/hoping fir a girl....

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no
and
no

NorthernLurker · 20/02/2008 19:55

Popyscal - they will ask. My next door neighbour's girlfriend (so someone we barely knew at all) said to dh 'did you mean to have IT' right after he'd been showing her dd3, telling her the name etc at her request - good job she didn't say that to me!

kittywise · 20/02/2008 19:58

easier than 1 to 2 and certainly easier than 3-4, 4-5 and 5-6. !

kittywise · 20/02/2008 19:59

When no. three was born the older two were 2 and 3 years old.

unknownrebelbang · 20/02/2008 20:02

Going from 2 to 3 was easier somehow for us (although we had so much other crud going on that DS3 just had to fit in iykwim).

I had three under four for six days, lol. DS1 was almost four, DS2 nearly 2 when we had DS3.

Biggest bugbear for me is the cost of holidays, so in the overall scheme of things, not too bad at all.

MrsJohnCusack · 20/02/2008 20:52

this is interesting
I am currently REALLY stuggling with 3 yr old and 11 month old but still have the nagging thought that I'd liek a third.
But I think after a good gap -say 4/5 years - seems from reading this that that might work (if we are lucky enough to be able to have another of course). am always slightly wary because my brother and sister are 10 and 13 yrs older than me, but then I am fine and had a nice childhood....

but I know I couldn't do 3 under 4 or whatever - am way too crap!

alfiesbabe · 21/02/2008 09:24

I would say the opposite though MrsJohn - I think in the long run it's easier to pop them out relatively close together! We have 3 dcs, with an overall gap of 4 yrs 1 month between numbers 1 and 3. The early days were hard work, but then it gets much easier. They're sufficiently close for days out and holidays to be fairly straightforward. Friends of mine who went for a bigger age gap probably found the early days easier, having the oldest ones in school, but within a year or so tended to find that the children had very different wants and needs

alfiesbabe · 21/02/2008 09:24

I would say the opposite though MrsJohn - I think in the long run it's easier to pop them out relatively close together! We have 3 dcs, with an overall gap of 4 yrs 1 month between numbers 1 and 3. The early days were hard work, but then it gets much easier. They're sufficiently close for days out and holidays to be fairly straightforward. Friends of mine who went for a bigger age gap probably found the early days easier, having the oldest ones in school, but within a year or so tended to find that the children had very different wants and needs

MrsJohnCusack · 21/02/2008 20:03

tbh I think I'll be crap at it whatever teh gap

BitTiredNow · 21/02/2008 20:10

for us it was lovely - the best yet - even better than 0-1. I did in in the hardest circumstances too - dh is army and came back from a 4 mont deployment 2 days before she was born and we moved 2 weeks later then dh went away again for 7 months 8 weeks later. But now our family dynmaic is better than it ever has been. ds1 and 2 are now one unit and do everything together, and I have much more time with baby. we all love it, and I would really really recommend it. The only downside I have noticed is the ridiculous amount of washing!!!!

BitTiredNow · 21/02/2008 20:13

should add - she was a happy mistake, but I had no end of awful comments - usually 'do you want a girl' as if in some wasy I had been disappointed that ds2 was a boy - AS IF!!!! I had been desperate for ds1 to have a brother and cried with joy when I found out ds2 was another boy - but still get really indignant when people say 'oh, hit the jackpot 3rd time round then'. Oh, and when we sent out the birth announcement e-mail, one of DH's colleagues actually said in reply 'are you MAD - they now outnumber you' - I had great fun in replying to that one.....

rah425 · 21/02/2008 20:29

I found hardest jump was 0-1 had postnatal depression as well. 1- 2 was a piece of cake after that. although second has a lot of health probs. and 2-3 is fine until they are all ill chicken pox went on forever, Also can be a struggle trying to fit in time to help eldest with homework mine are all boys and aged 5, 3 and 11 months also think there is something special about 3 of same sex, definately not having any more but am getting fed up of people saying its not fair on the middle one if we stick at 3. Anyone else found that ????

sweetkitty · 21/02/2008 20:37

I'm going to have 3 in a little less than 4 years in July so reading this thread with interest.

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