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I'm ill with Covid and my husband is feeding my son on our bed

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 18:03

Hi everyone,

I tested positive 3 days ago for Covid and been confined to our spare room so my husband and 5-year-old son don't catch it. We both work from home.

For the past 2 days my husband has fed my son breakfast and dinner on our bed in front of a TV or iPad. Basically as soon as my son has got home from school both days he has just watched screens until bedtime.

This evening I said to my husband I didn't feel it was appropriate that he had my son eating on the bed morning and night and he has shouted at me, told me how dare I question him and what he wants to do and that it is how he is managing the situation.

What are your thoughts? How would you handle this situation?

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3FriendsAndADog · 05/05/2023 18:42

@HopeG your DH shouldn’t have shouted at you

He shouldn’t need to ‘manage the situation’. It’s not such a crazy thing for him to do to feed his own child morning and evening for 3 days! The normal thing would have been just carrying in the normal routine Wo you. Just like you would if he was the one to ill.

I suspect it only points out to the fact he isn’t normally involved in that way and is therefore feeling out upon and like he is doing something difficult/out if the ordinary.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 05/05/2023 18:44

Meh, i couldn't get het up about it.

I have covid currently too, not isolating but also WFH and doing bare minimum of housework and child keeping.

I think my kids have eaten pizza whilst playing nintendo more than usual, but honestly for the sake of a week I don't care. I'm too tired and unwell to care.

They're fed, that'll do.

mycatsanutter · 05/05/2023 18:45

I would be more concerned about screens until bedtime , but eating on the bed just seems a bit odd and unnecessary

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Okunevo · 05/05/2023 18:45

If it's not his child I'd just be happy he is being cared for. It's not a big deal for a few days.

DanceMonster · 05/05/2023 18:45

Looking after one 5 year old shouldn’t count as ‘managing the situation’ though should it? Feeding your child breakfast and dinner at the table is hardly asking the world. I imagine the OP doesn’t do the same when her partner isn’t around at meal times for whatever reason. People are talking as though looking after a 5 year old around work for a few days on your own is some massive task that needs extra consideration.

Okunevo · 05/05/2023 18:47

CeliaNorth · 05/05/2023 18:20

Why is he so useless with his own son?

Is it his own son? OP says 'my son' throughout - but 'our bed' and 'our spare room'.

I agree, it doesn't sound like it is his son

Use74074345 · 05/05/2023 18:51

Is it his stepson as you say my son not our son.

gentlemum · 05/05/2023 18:54

It's lazy parenting, but I assume dad isn't used to looking after your son all the time so he's coping in the way he can and it is only very temporary. But if it was me I'd also be very annoyed and would want him to do things differently. I know my husband doesn't take well to being 'criticised' when he's in charge even when I think he's doing something wrong.

itsgettingweird · 05/05/2023 18:55

Why's he a bellend?

He's looking after the child, feeding them and keeping them away from mummy who is in the same house.

If you isolate with covid through choice you don't get to dictate how the world goes on without you 🤷‍♀️

Tidsleytiddy · 05/05/2023 19:03

PollyPeptide · 05/05/2023 18:26

Why is he a bellend? What's wrong with eating on your bed watching telly? 😳@

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Nothing wrong with it

Tidsleytiddy · 05/05/2023 19:05

Nimbostratus100 · 05/05/2023 18:40

it sounds fine to me - I am eating tea in my bed right now

👏🏻👍

RagingWoke · 05/05/2023 19:05

It's temporary, if you're isolating (I didn't think anyone was anymore) then leave them to it.

FFF3 · 05/05/2023 19:10

Why are you isolating? When they’re poorly, most people don’t know if it’s covid they have now.

ZenNudist · 05/05/2023 19:15

It's not 2020. Just go about your business.

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 19:15

It is his son. Should have said our son, sorry!

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WateryDoom · 05/05/2023 19:15

I'd leave them to it. If you are ill enough to stay in bed away from everyone then you are ill enough to keep your beak out of how DH is dealing with house and child.

If you are well enough to criticise then you are well enough to get up and take over if you don't like it.

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 19:16

My husband didn't want me passing it on to him or our son hence why I am isolating.

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 19:17

My husband didn't want to catch it hence why I am isolating.

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3FriendsAndADog · 05/05/2023 19:19

I’m quite surprised that so many people think it’s ok for the father to do the bare minimum because mum is ill (and they are not).
Does it work if the OP is away for the weekend too? Or if she had weird working patterns so that dad had to look after his child 2~3 days a week?

Or is it only because SHE is ill so nothing is supposed to work Wo her?

Im also wondering if indeed the DP is a step father, is it normal to expect him to do the minimum and then extremely grateful for it? If it was the utter way round and the OP was looking after a SC, I’m pretty sure this would be considered normal. And there would be no ‘being grateful and she is doing the bare minimum but you’re nit supposed to ask for more’.

im still surprised at how little is expected from fathers tbh. I shouldn’t but I am.

3FriendsAndADog · 05/05/2023 19:20

Xpost with you OP.

So yes. A shit father then.

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 19:21

My husband wanted me to test and then didn't want him or my son to catch it

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AngelinaFibres · 05/05/2023 19:21

If you were very poorly you wouldn't care what was going on in the rest of the house. If you are well enough to pick holes in what your husband is doing you are well enough to sort it out yourself. You don't need to isolate

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 19:22

My husband doesn't want him or our son to catch it, hence why I am staying in the spare room.

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HopeG · 05/05/2023 19:23

It's my husband who wanted me to isolate.

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TooOldForThisNonsense · 05/05/2023 19:23

I’m amazed that people think eating dinner in bed is ok. I think it’s a bit rank.

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