My 24 year old won't get a job

[fluffyvase]

18 months out of uni and won't get a job. I'm pulling my hair out. What do I do?

How are they paying for their lifestyle?

Did they say why?

Won't or can't?
If it's "won't" - simple solution - let them live with you (because that's better than the streets) but they need to purchase their own food, pay for phone etc.
They will either have to get a job or sign on for benefits where they will be required to job search.
If it's "can't" then maybe give them some help as to why they haven't found work yet.

How are they affording food, to go out, but clothes, pay for their phone etc?

Are they

(a) living with you
(b) paying you rent/board and lodging?

Can you give us some more information like:

Are there any MH problems
Are they living with you
Who I currently paying for things like Wi-Fi/phone and clothes?

@fluffyvase

Are you able to provide more details?

We need more info. Did they finish their degree? What do they want to do? What is stopping them?

Is s/he applying for jobs? What does s/he want to do?
What about them talking to a careers advisor? Are you charging them rent? If not I'd be telling them you'll be starting to charge lodging rates from 1st June, so they have just over a month to get a job.

Won’t or can’t, are they not applying? For anything?

He finished his degree and was awarded a 2.1. He pays his share of gas and electricity bills plus he buys his own food. I'm not aware of any MH problems but he could be hiding it. I thought he had been applying for jobs when he finished uni but now I'm not so sure.

So where is he getting his money from?

It took me 8 months to get a job and it was HARD. Got a 2:1 from a Russell Group but no one is arsed if you’ve no experience. Does he need help applying? It’s an art in itself.

Leave them to fend for themselves.

Has he ever had a job? Where’s his money coming from?

Apparently he invests online. I've offered to help him look for a job but he says he has it covered.

Start charging market rent for a house share and then see if his "investing online" can cover it if not time to get a proper job.

I think the worry is the longer it goes on for, realistically the harder it is going to be to find work at a graduate level.

I know in MN land, young adults will cheerily agree to hand over a few hundred in rent every month once their parent(s) demand it, and this will serve as the incentive needed, but I’m not sure it does. I think it would just lead to arguments and bad feelings on both sides.

It takes some adjustment from university to working life and I do think he needs to be doing SOMETHING, if not a long term plan then at least so his CV has less of a gap. Would he consider something like Teach First or even anything army based … I hate the idea of that but it’s preferable to not working at all.

Good luck with it.

Sit him down and ask him since this is your house he needs to let you know a reliable time frame of when he is planning to move out.

Tell him girls think it's pathetic when a man lives with his mummy.

Don't do this, we have enough Incels running around (or more like sitting around behind their computers) already without feeding the flames.

Invests what online? Does he have savings? Is he gambling? Sounds very odd.

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What does he spend his time doing, is he going out and about?

Is he drug dealing