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“Oh no.. another boy!? I’m sorry ” 😑

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Sunshinejeans · 21/04/2023 21:52

Just ranting here.. checking in to a flight today and airline needed to see pregnancy notes, check in lady made polite chit chat asking how far along I was, if it was my first, if we was finding out etc and when I said that this will be our 2nd as we have a 2 year old son already and replied to her question on if we was finding out that we knew already and we was having another boy.. she replied “oh no, another boy.. sorry!?.. There’s 10 months between my son and daughter, we got so lucky having one of each.. I’m sorry” & gave me an odd sympathetic sad lipped look .. I think I was a little taken aback and just took my stuff and walked off as she was done but it’s been winding me up ever since hence the release here (sorry!) .. (For the record, we’re delighted to be having another healthy baby and a brother for our son and really don’t want or need an apology from a stranger🙄😂!!)

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rattlinbog · 21/04/2023 21:57

Oh I hate this too.
I always think these comments come from stupid people. Same sort of people who comment on how big/small you are for the month of pregnancy you're in.
Or say "oh I hope you won't find out the sex" etc.

MissyB1 · 21/04/2023 22:05

I had a colleague say more or less exactly the same thing. I remember answering “oh really? I consider myself so lucky to be having another healthy baby”

People are sooo stupid.

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 21/04/2023 22:06

I had one of each and then had dc3. 1 person on finding out that dc3 was a boy said "oh well, never mind".

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recklessgran · 21/04/2023 22:07

Op you can probably imagine the sort of comments I was getting by daughter number 5. Adore them all. People are weird. Enjoy your beautiful boys!

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 21/04/2023 22:09

I have two boys. I didn't want a girl. I still get people saying "oh youl have to try again for a girl" "we were lucky we got one of each, it's what everyone wants" no it's really not, even though I physically can't have more. It really winds me up even years later. Just try and ignore them.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 21/04/2023 22:10

You need some stock passive aggressive comments to reply to strangers when they do this. They are so fucking rude.

"Oh, gosh, I'm not as narrow minded as you to imagine that only one of each is the ideal set up"

"Thank you so much for backing me up that this is a truly terrible situation - that's why we have decided to have the boy adopted and try again"

Followed by a bit toothy grin.

How fucking dare she.

Potplant19 · 21/04/2023 22:11

I have two daughters and a stranger on the bus the other day said, 'You'll be hoping for a boy next" - totally bizarre, I'm very happy with two daughters and no inclination for a third, or what a stranger's thoughts on it are.

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Sunshinejeans · 21/04/2023 22:14

You’ve all made me feel much less irritated by reading these comments.. so thank you very much! However I can’t quite believe how many narrow minded idiots we share this world with to all have such similar experiences. I am certainly going to have some stock replies ready for next time!

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Abhannmor · 21/04/2023 22:16

People would sympathise with us over having twin boys.
' You won't get much peace ...they'll be scrapping over the toys ' etc.

They would soften the blow with - ' boys are more loving' though. I'm not sure where these ideas come from. Just ignore them OP .

And congratulations 🎊

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 21/04/2023 22:21

Urgh. My mil let us know sil was “building a football team, which is a shame…” by way of letting us know sil was expecting ds4. I told her I jolly well hoped she hadn’t told sil it was a shame!

Some people (loudly) assumed my much wanted dc3 was an accident as we already had the coveted one of each 🙄

TobiasForgesContactLense · 21/04/2023 22:25

How rude of her!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 21/04/2023 22:35

I have 3 DS's and had this after my third
A school mum actually said " oh, another boy? You must be disappointed"
No I was delighted, and grateful he was healthy... and no I was not trying for a girl... another question
Some people have no filter

uncomfortablydumb53 · 21/04/2023 22:37

Forgot to add Congratulations!

Snugglemonkey · 21/04/2023 22:39

I hate this shit. I have recently had a second baby. I now have one of each. Tby, I wanted another boy because of the shite put on girls, though obviously I adore her.

That was totally inappropriate and I would have been raging with her!

StJulian2023 · 21/04/2023 22:41

I have one of each and was told ‘that’s a shame, if they were both boys or both girls they would play better together’ 🙄🤣

You just have to laugh - some people have a negative comment for any number or combination of children from 0 upwards.

PracticallyFlooredZero · 21/04/2023 22:41

People can be so rude. I have 2 boys (and now a baby girl) and when I was expecting ds2 so many people commiserated me on my beautiful, healthy baby boy. Made me really angry, both for him and for my eldest!

And got equally peed off by people being so over the moon I was ‘finally!’ Having a girl for baby number 3 (I’d have been very happy if she had been a third boy).

2 boys is lovely by the way. My 2 are best friends, absolutely lost without each other if they are apart.

Franklin2000 · 21/04/2023 22:42

I had ds1 then years of secondary infertility before getting pregnant with ds2. I really didn’t care what he was, just happy to be having another baby. When I found out he was a boy everyone gave sympathetic looks, comments telling me never mind, there might be another yet. Only one woman, a person I just spoke to on the school run with 2 boys herself said how wonderful, another boy!! I actually burst into tears when she said that. I’m sure some people just put their mouth in gear before their brains.

DHsPoorBack · 21/04/2023 22:46

Abhannmor · 21/04/2023 22:16

People would sympathise with us over having twin boys.
' You won't get much peace ...they'll be scrapping over the toys ' etc.

They would soften the blow with - ' boys are more loving' though. I'm not sure where these ideas come from. Just ignore them OP .

And congratulations 🎊

They are of course correct. My boy/girl twins definitely didn't get in to full blown fisticuffs and have to sit on separate naughty steps, because they both were adamant it was "their turn" to open the back door.

Grin
Phoebo · 21/04/2023 22:46

Wow that's shocking. And really dumb, I have a boy and if I had another I'd prefer another boy! Some people 🙄

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/04/2023 22:47

Cheeky cow. Our son is glorious.

Vee1987 · 21/04/2023 22:48

YANBU! She's clearly never experienced the pain of infertility or loss or had a scan with worrying news leaving you praying for a healthy baby at the end of the pregnancy and not even giving the sex a second thought. Or nobody who has experienced any of these things has opened up to her as she sounds like an arse.

Vee1987 · 21/04/2023 22:49

Huge congratulations, by the way. I think all combinations are wonderful in different ways: brothers, sisters, one of each...

SOMumm · 21/04/2023 22:50

We had all manner of comments when expecting our third- some quite offensive -

our neighbour in her thirties with 3 sporty boisterous boys, on delivering her fourth
baby boy was told many times to ‘never mind’ and ‘I am sorry ?! ‘ or that she would have “4 strong sons to carry her coffin” at which point she said she ‘went in and shut the door ‘

Netaporter · 21/04/2023 22:57

My friend had this. She wanted (and could afford) a big family. She had 5 boys and then a girl. She was never trying for a girl but after 2 boys, people would ask her if ‘she was disappointed?’ And she used to say, ‘disappointed I’ve had a healthy baby? No.’

Some People are just twats.

Sometimeswinning · 21/04/2023 22:58

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 21/04/2023 22:09

I have two boys. I didn't want a girl. I still get people saying "oh youl have to try again for a girl" "we were lucky we got one of each, it's what everyone wants" no it's really not, even though I physically can't have more. It really winds me up even years later. Just try and ignore them.

I find this answer more annoying. Surely it shouldn't matter whether its a boy or girl? You're reply is just as bizarre.