“Oh no.. another boy!? I’m sorry ” 😑

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Just ranting here.. checking in to a flight today and airline needed to see pregnancy notes, check in lady made polite chit chat asking how far along I was, if it was my first, if we was finding out etc and when I said that this will be our 2nd as we have a 2 year old son already and replied to her question on if we was finding out that we knew already and we was having another boy.. she replied “oh no, another boy.. sorry!?.. There’s 10 months between my son and daughter, we got so lucky having one of each.. I’m sorry” & gave me an odd sympathetic sad lipped look .. I think I was a little taken aback and just took my stuff and walked off as she was done but it’s been winding me up ever since hence the release here (sorry!) .. (For the record, we’re delighted to be having another healthy baby and a brother for our son and really don’t want or need an apology from a stranger🙄😂!!)

@Sometimeswinning no it doesn't matter but I'm allowed a preference and wanted another son. Sorry if that bothers you and you find it bizarre.

I’d go with ‘of course I’m disappointed, I was hoping for a puppy’

Fuckwits used to stop me in the street and say this sort of shit about my toddler.

ooh you’ve got your hands full, boys are
so active aren’t they. But you’ll be grateful when he’s a teenager, boys are so much easier, just need food and exercise. Girls are horrible teenagers, so dramatic and bitchy.

then they used to think I was the insane one who apparently didn’t know my child was a boy when I’d smile sweetly and say yes, SHE takes some keeping up with. Some would even correct me 🙄

I used to say this.

What are you hoping for?

a kitten.

Yes I got it too. Quite often it was aw is it another girl. Ur dh must be disappointed. Will you be trying for another then 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well there's preference and not wanting. You said you didn't want a girl. I knew someone who would say the same thing all the time. I think now she was desperate for a girl after 3 boys and didn't want anyone to feel sorry for her.

I would never have said anything but her constant ooh I hope it's not a girl was just annoying!

@Sometimeswinning well that's a shame for her. Lucky I haven't done the constant "ohhh I hope it's not a girl" and don't expect anyone to feel sorry for me.

If you see on this thread, there are a few people who have said they wanted another boy after already having one. There's nothing wrong with wanting the same/having a preference. I'm sure people who already had a girl, wanted another girl the second time around.

The whole point of the tread was nosey people running their mouths about the sex of a baby when it's nothing to do with them. It doesn't mean the parents are ungrateful with whatever baby they're going to have, they are still allowed to have a preference.

@ComeTheFuckOnBridgett I never had that feeling and was just happy to be pregnant I guess. So you'll understand that your comment was pretty strange to me. Same as if someone said I'll bet you hope the next ones a boy/girl etc.

The only reason I would want the same sex as the first would have been to save a bit of money on clothes as they got older. But that's only hit me now they're all at school!

I was on the receiving end of that sort of nonsense when expecting DS2 and got it even worse when pregnant with DS3.

One acquaintance who knew I already had two sons came up to me at the school gate when I'd just had DS3 and actually expressed her commiserations that I'd had another boy. I can't remember exactly what I said in reply, but it certainly wasn't polite.

I am one of 3 girls and l remember people asking my Dad in front of us when we were young "Wouldn't you have liked a boy?" Like we weren't enough. He always said he was happy with 3 daughters.
I have two sons and have experienced similar stupid comments in the past but the thing is my sons are older now, l' m a lone parent, they help me regarding gardening, DIY, decorating, with my car, carry heavy stuff etc and everyone in the street etc telling me how lucky l am.

Just submitting a stock response (in the form of a cartoon I once saw)

My mum was audibly disappointed when I told her our second was another girl, but at least she tried to hide it!

My DM was 'gutted' when her third healthy GS was born.