Family holiday WWYD?

[Marzipangirl3]

DH’s side of the family have arranged a holiday for the Summer in the UK. DC will be 6 months old when the holiday is booked for. Including stopping for feeds and safety due to baby being in car seat, the journey will take us around 8 hours (provided no heavy traffic) there and 8 hours back. The holiday is during the week but we cannot go for the first two days as DH need to be in the office (he can’t take the days off). So essentially we’d be missing two days, travelling down on the third day and missing most of that, there for the full fourth day and travelling back on the fifth day. DH does very little mental load or physical load so all the preparation for us as a family would be on me. I wouldn’t mind if it was an actual holiday but it doesn’t feel like one at all. Then there’s the cost…. We have to still pay in full for our share of the accommodation, then there’s fuel plus food whilst we’re there. Accommodation and fuel alone will be around £1000 minimum.

WWYD? I feel like it’s impractical for us to go as a family so I should maybe just tell DH to go on his own? I’m very used to parenting alone anyway so it won’t make much of a difference, in fact I’ll have one less person making a mess that I have to clean up!

Don’t go . Your OH can go on his own . It’s just ridiculous and will just be extremely stressful.

No chance.

Reading your posts I can’t imagine why you WOULD go.

It’s totally insane to even consider this. 1K for what is essentially a 1 day holiday. Plus at least 16 hours of driving with a baby. It’s an easy no from me. Just say dh has to work so you can’t go.

Absolutely no way I would do this, even for my own lovely family. They wouldn't ask or expect it either. In fact, they'd have booked somewhere less than an hour for us and wouldn't even ask for a contribution (although we'd of course pay).

Very inconsiderate. I'd just let your husband go himself and have some time at home with your baby. I doubt he'll take you up on it though as you aren't there to facilitate everything.

Very bad for a baby to sit in a car seat for this length of time. And you are considering doing it twice in a matter of a few days? Dear God woman, start sticking up for yourself and your child.

If your dh doesn't put his child first, there's your answer.

I'd have two words for this bollocks; fuck that. Don't go, and don't let any money for it come out of the family pot.

That's not a holiday that is a pilgrimage. I wouldn't even consider it for a minute.

your husband sounds horrible - sorry OP but you deserve better than this.

I wouldn't need more than a minute to decide this. I wouldn't go.

So.... £1000 for a one day holiday? Unless it comes with gold-plated accomodation, a full maid service and full board gold-plated food, fuck that.

I definitely wouldn’t be doing that. Ds is 19 months old and I wouldn’t even consider that now. Why would anyone think of booking a holiday for you without asking you first? Non of this makes any sense…

Your problem is your husband.

Don't bother going

I wouldn't go for love nor money. Spending £1000 for accommodation you can't make full use of , to only essentially have one full day there makes no sense at all. I'd stay home and he can go on his own. Op you know you have bigger problems though with a dh that has nothing to do with your baby. I'll leave it at that as you haven't asked for advice on that area.

Regardless of who the holiday is with I wouldn't be travelling for 8!hrs car with 6month baby. That sounds very stressful to me and I learnt to it say yes to things which I knew I would end up regretting.

That should say I learned to say no !!!!

Not a chance would I do this
Just say no, it doesn't work for you

You have bigger problems husband wise but I think you know that - good luck

Even if I didn’t have a baby, I wouldn’t be travelling all that way and spending all that money for one and a half days! I think your DH is ridiculous for even considering putting you and baby through this.

I don't think the Op is planning this though - she says the 8 hours includes time for feeds and car seat safety - so sounds like she's factored this in to a shorter journey - even so it sounds very long! I'd travel that far to see family though, but only if dh had the whole time off (or I felt confident enough to go on my own at the start of the holiday).

Sorry but why are you actually with him? He sounds like he’s adding nothing to your life and I’m more astounded you’re actually considering going to this shit show 🫣