When did you stop co sleeping

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DS is 15mo and goes in his cot 7-11/12 then is in our bed so most of the night!

It’s a habit I started when he got to nursery and picked up bugs I just got him in our bed it was easier than going to his room to settle him etc

but now many many months in, I am struggling to get him to stay. In his cot longer

im not trying for a full night immediately! We need to build up to it, he’s been so used to this and I’m changing it I feel bad but it’s more so we can all get good sleep in our own beds

however because of this habit it’s like he’s wired to wake around 11/12 if he’s not in our bed or being cuddled

when did you stop co sleeping? I feel so much pressure from my boyfriend (DS’ dad) family and my boyfriends family everyone makes comments

Mine is 23 months and we still cosleep.
Tell BF to tell his family to STFU and mind their own business. If you’re happy and toddler is happy then who cares.

My 4 year old is asleep next to me right now. He moved out for a bit last year but came back and is very clear he wants to be with me. Can be squashed but I like having him.

Do what works for you. Ignore other people.

21 Months have coslept since 4 months. We have decided to tackle it now but to be honest I am not in a hurry.

Well my 8 year old is currently in with me which is a regular thing if not every night. He likes H or I with him and I figure he won’t be wanting us there when he’s 16 so he’ll stop at some point.

Babies who sleep through in their own cots appear to be a minority in my experience. Some people feel strongly that sleep training is the answer, and the sleep industry will also sell this to you. When children are small, the days are long but the years are short: this too shall pass. I co-slept with both of mine but have always bed hopped to them, rather than bring them to us. My daughter slept all night alone at 3, my son has just started at 21 months sleeping through most nights. I think it's biologically normal for infants to want to sleep with parents. It's happened for centuries! However for some families, co-sleeping is detrimental to relationships/mental health. Trust your gut and what feels right for you. No two babies are the same and it's easy to drive yourself potty searching for solution. There is so much bloody judgement about how families sleep, which doesn't help!

5 year old next to me right now 👀 bigger two kids would be here as well if they hadn’t been ousted by younger sibling! I don’t know how to stop cosleeping but I don’t like being woken up when they wake up alone so.. I assume DD will stop at some point in her life!

My DD7 started sleeping routinely in her own bed by about age 5, before that it was a gentle journey from our bed all the time to part of every night to some nights to her sleeping in her own bed. We very rarely share a bed now, occasionally if she is ill, has a nightmare and we also have a mummy and DD sleepover some times. Basically we just went at her pace and it worked for her and us. Your child will not be sharing your bed forever enjoy it whilst it lasts and don't worry about other people's opinions!

We are gently stopping it now at 11.5 months. I’m in cancer treatment, DH is knackered, we need her to be happy in her own bed. I never wanted to co sleep anyway and I never slept well with her in with me. It’s going well so far, we have a gradual plan that feels right for us and there’s been very very few tears (I would never leave her to cry)

We still co-sleep with our 20 month old and have been since birth :) she’s never gone into her cot for more than 20 minutes at a time

3 or 4. They would all start the night in their own bed from around 18months or so but when they woke up they would come into our bed (I breastfed them all until they were over 2 so they mainly wanted to feed at this point). I'm very laid back about it though, my feelings are that if the kids want to come into our bed and feel safe/close to us, fine. Our 2 eldest are 7 and 5, if they are ill they will still come and get in, otherwise it stopped on a regular basis around when school started aged 4. Our youngest has just turned 2, he comes in every night, anywhere from 2am-5am, he's done 1 entire night in his own bed ever, I woke up worrying something was wrong because he hadn't appeared by 6am 🤣. I'm very relaxed and know they stop this eventually, the reason I don't say no is my parents decided once I got to 4/5 I wasn't allowed in their bed and they locked their door to stop me, I was frightened (we lived in a very creepy building that was massive, I'd feel scared if I slept there now as an adult!). I said to my husband when we had kids they are welcome to come in our bed, even if they just feel scared or need a cuddle. We both work ft in demanding jobs, but I'd rather feel tired than have distressed children.

If anyone else does comment I'd tell them to mind their own business. If you want to stop it obviously stop it, it's up to you if/when you do this though.

It’s a problem when you’ve had enough. You’ll get a whole range of responses from never did it through to my 8YO still comes into bed most nights. It sounds like the problem for you is not so much the cosleeping but that you’re not on the same page as your DP.

I'm single and co-sleeping with my 7 year old. Same sex.
It works for us. We both sleep well. She can go in her room whenever she likes.

Just before 2 they moved into their own beds but it took a good 6 ish months for them to sleep through without needing me climb into their bed during the night.

If it suits you, keep doing it. It is very important to remember that people lie about stuff like this. You can too!

If people are making comments just ask them for their reasoning.

Many people have opinions on co-sleeping (something that is normal around the globe and completely biologically normal) and when you ask them a simple 'why?' they have no answer because they've not formed the opinion themselves, it's just one they hold for absolutely no reason.

Learn to just be inquisitive and ask people 'really, why?' then wait for their answer. If they have one, which is rare, just say 'thank you I will think about that' and move on.

My 8 and 7 year olds still co sleep with me on rotation. Their elder brother stopped at 7.

We co slept after it became apparent that DD was never going to sleep in a cot after two weeks of almost falling asleep holding her.

Shes 3 in July. From around 12-18 months I was easily able to roll away and get a few hours to myself.

Between 2-2.5 I worked up the courage to start sleeping back in my own bed....on a good night she would go 5 hours before needing a resettle and I would just get back into bed with her.

We gave lots of ups and downs - she is trying to drop a nap at the moment and must be the only child in the world who sleeps WORSE without the nap - she sleeps very lightly and wakes up if I am not there and then we have split nights, so its easier to just stay in with her. She is starting to have longer and deeper chunk sleeps so I will start going back into my own room again.

She will get there in the end and and this way we are always getting the most sleep.

Two kids 11 months and 16 months. They both started the night in the cot after 6 months then eventually slept through so didn't move to my bed.

Also if you are happy with the situation then no need need to change it for your partner's family - they need to leave you alone. If you want to stop then you could try some sleep training.

DS is nearly 9 and still comes in at some point most nights. I gave up trying to stop him at around 3 when I realised we all got more sleep if we just got on with it. I just enjoy the cuddles as I know it won’t be forever. It’s easier to deal with once you’ve accepted it. 🙂

At about 18 months old when my son woke I would lay by his cot and sing twinkle twinkle on repeat til he fell back to sleep. I spent a week or so on his floor and slept with his bean bag as my pillow but one day he realised it wasn’t worth it and stopped waking up. Slept through ever since bar illness. I just was determined I wouldn’t lift him out the cot and stuck to it

Moved DS to his own bed at two to night wean, back in mine when winter hit (very cold inside). The toddler bed stayed in my room until he started school and I passed it on, he was sometimes in it, sometimes with me. He then had a bed in his room available.

I never co-slept with any of my kids; I have three. I really need to have a lot of space to be able to fall asleep and it took me a long time to get used to having my husband in the bed. If on rare occasion one of the kids would crawl into our bed over night I would not sleep at all. So no, never co-slept, always put them in their crib over night.

DS finally moved to his own room for good at 11. Enjoy the cuddles while it lasts! He still comes in to hug me goodnight at almost 17.

I stopped at 6 months with both of my mine and now really regretting that. I can't wait to do things differently with my next one, who I'll keep with me as long as they need me.